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He couldn't be a bigger HATER!

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#1 Feb 15 - 8PM
Anonymous (not verified)
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He couldn't be a bigger HATER!

This man hates me sooo much. I can't stand it. I have never met such a hateful person in my life.

9 months out and the contempt for me just grows stronger and stronger.

Does anyone else have to see the ex abuser and experience this?

It's like they hate you to the point that they can't even fake being nice so that they can screw you over again.

It's a horrible feeling to be so hated by someone you never did anything wrong to.

Kinda like wait you can't hate ME. I hate YOU. Stupid SOB!

I don't participate any more but it doesn't seem to matter.

He just continues to bait me. Like a hungry wolf just waiting for the little lamb to become unaware so that he can devour it.

I just want him to stop being so hateful. It's a feeling that's hard to describe, but the hate just emanates from him when I see him. And his actions are so contrived.

I have until July 2012 to have to work around him and that seems sooo long. I will continue to ignore but I really needed to vent because sometimes I just want to tell him just how big an asshole he is!

Feb 16 - 10AM
GeorgiaGirl
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5 years out from exN#1

and he hates me more every day. We have 3 children together. You are not alone.
Feb 16 - 7AM
onwithmylife
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ruby01

you are a smart, bright woman and i have always liked your postings.this one hits home, i am over 3 years out and the narc and i exchange some letters in the late fall of last year and he was so HATEFUL, 5 pages worth of hating me, tear me down, lash out at me, you name it, it was scary because he only knows projection, as sparrow mentioned, he CANNOT look within himself, it is sooo much easier to blame me and all the other women in his life that he had failed relationships with, he is sad and pathetic, I wonder how he still lives his life in his own world, yet he has a few older women who like him and he can use them for companionship and sex whenever he needs that, my guess he is probably doing cybersex for that part.See they do not know who he really is......like i do and probably never will, he has his mask on for them
Feb 16 - 7AM
ruby01 (not verified)
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I don't think

I've ever mentioned that I'm a single parent of 2 teenage girls! I think the combo of all of them was a little too much yesterday! Thanks girls. It's nice to be heard sometimes.
Feb 15 - 9PM
Sparrow
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He has no hate for you, he

He has no hate for you, he has no feelings for you. He hates himself and projects that onto you. Think about it, in order to hate, he would have to love, he is void of those emotions when it comes to others. He only loves himself, and he only hates himself. He needs to give the illusion that he hates you, just like he gave the illusion that he loves you. Again, he needs to project.
Feb 16 - 6AM (Reply to #8)
ruby01 (not verified)
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Sparow

Thanks for reminding me. I just get tired of this sometimes. Chin up. It's a new day.
Feb 16 - 7AM (Reply to #9)
Sparrow
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Ruby, every day is a new day

Ruby, every day is a new day and every new day begins with promise. That's the beauty of it! It's like a constant "do over". A gift each morning when you wake up........ Chin up, keep forging forward, and know your worth. That my friend is worth it's weight in gold! Have a wonderful day!
Feb 15 - 8PM
ichooselife
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"What a horrible thing to have to be around!" :(

I guess who he truly hates is himself. I know its next to impossible not to take it personally though. I felt like my N despised me long before he left, infact when we were still a new couple. It seemed like at times when I felt so bonded to him and was being so sweet and affectionate is when he despised me the most. If these guys had enough balls to face themselves, they wouldn't feel the need to project on us. (I think). I'm sure you are looking forward to the day you get to leave that behind. Then the idiot can know it wasnt all about him.
Feb 16 - 6AM (Reply to #5)
ruby01 (not verified)
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ichooselife

Thanks. You are right. It's true the closer you get the uglier they appear. What a horrible individual. The bright side is that I am not him and that I am not where I was 10 years ago. I'm better today!
Feb 16 - 7AM (Reply to #6)
sadderbutwiser
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this reminds me

this reminds me of something i read on here in the early stages of my recovery: "it is only those who try to get close, who see the emptiness and the anger that lies beneath the polished surface."
Feb 15 - 8PM
ruby01 (not verified)
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OOPS!

I have until July 2013!
Feb 16 - 12AM (Reply to #2)
shock and awe.some (not verified)
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OUCH

Big difference. Better tighten the elastic on your big girl pants! If you want me to come kick his ass, let me know
Feb 16 - 6AM (Reply to #3)
ruby01 (not verified)
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shock and awe.some

Yea, It's a long haul. When he finds a new target I think he will stop. In the mean time I'll just bear with it. We can just kick his ass in our minds!