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#1 Apr 3 - 11PM
M
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He Came to the House!!

Last night he came to the house at 10:30pm. The "claim" was he was concerned for me & my daughter's safety since we didn't return his phone call. and he "worries" about us in the home.
Same guy who wouldn't come home til midnight, 1aM, 2AM, ETC WHILE WE WERE MARRIED!!
He contacted one of my friends to text me. There are 5 messages on my home phone from him.
I had left my phone at home when I went to get my daughter at a playdate around 8pm. I told her her dad called, she said I'll talk to him later & fell asleep.
Not sure what to do...

Apr 5 - 12PM
M
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phone messages

I just listened to the 6 messages he left that night. Some gems: "You made me leave my apartment and drive to your house because you didn't pick up your phone." and "Your actions of not answering my calls is just becoming more and more bizzare"
Apr 5 - 3PM (Reply to #8)
Hunter
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M

Just goes to show you, The silent treatment really ticks them off. What you lost your control ????? LOSER!!!!!!!!! Idealk
Apr 4 - 11AM
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Guess it is my turn for the

Guess it is my turn for the hoovering... I didn't open the door...or answer the phone. I do have a behavior order against him--where he's not supposed to step foot on my property uninvited or harass my friends. He probably had been drinking--or on something. He did admit he was on my property & called my friend in an e-mail. (that he cc'ed his mother!) It's been a full year of NC... Thanks Ladies for your support...
Apr 4 - 10AM
Happy1
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M

Sorry M! He is hoovering. It's hard I know, but you know what to do. 8-)
Apr 4 - 9AM
mystwoman
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This ladies are correct. He

These ladies are correct. He is low on supply and he's hoovering. When xnh hoovers, it always starts out as some "lead in" about his being concerned in some way. He's fishing for an avenue to suck me back in. Your xn showing up at your house at 10:30 p.m. has more to do with his "worry" about what you're doing, and his lack of control in any of it than for your safety. I know that if xnh were to show up unannounced at my house at 10:30 p.m., his appearance would have much more to do with with xnh's wanting to know who I had inside with me than any concern for my welfare (and in my case, it would always be NO ONE but my dogs - rofl). Not answering my phone would mean, in xnh's eyes, that I'm having sex with the entire male population, not that I've become the victim of an axe murderer. That's the way his miniature little mind works. These narcs are all about themselves and control. lol. Your xn is "worried" about where you are and what you're doing without him around. This is no longer in his control or any of his business. If he shows up at your house again, my advice is to NOT answer the door. Just call the police on him. You could be "worried" about that stalker that's on your doorstep at 10:30 p.m. :)

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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.

Apr 4 - 9AM
Hunter
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Spring is in the Air! Supply

Spring is in the Air! Supply is low! Next time don't answer the door! Freak. They really do know how to hurt and push buttons! Idealk
Apr 4 - 5AM
Goldie
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He is a piece of work

Oh what's the matter, is poor baby low on supply??? WTF, he treats you like crap during the marriage and now he gives a damn, ya right. I don't think all the drama needs a response. When he came over 10:30, did you talk to him? If not, perhaps the friend if they don't mind could simply say: yes, I texted her and they are fine. If not, no biggie. When your daughter calls him back at some point he will know that she is fine. How are you doing with all this, are you o.k? Kind of freaks you out I bet to see his mask back on. God bless, Goldie
Apr 4 - 12AM
Arwen
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what to do

do you have to do anything? Do you have a restraining order against him or something like that that he has violated? I don't know the history...are you in danger?