Having the worst day in quite awhile.....

Estimated time to heal 18 months give or take... During that time we work on ourselves, and get stronger and empowered so we have a better shield against dweebs. We also get back to self, establish boundaries and discover what we really want. The choice is yours but having been narced, I believe doing the work will greatly reduce our chances of getting caught up again. We can't be completed or made whole by others, we also can't use other to mask our own pain and issues. Work on you is my advice, forget dating for a while. Hugs!

Glad to hear you are feeling better again (referring to comment below). Dating is bound to be a trigger for you right now and it really is too soon IMO to consider dating as anything more than possibly a pleasant distraction from the loss you are processing regarding your ex. It struck me reading about the text your date sent you this morning: "hey, you are a terrific person, blah, blah, but not sure if it will work long term..." If you feel a need to reply at all, may I suggest this: "Thank you for being honest. You've put my mind at ease, because after our date last night, I KNOW it won't work long term..." Lol! No narc for you!!!

Just a trigger, plus you went On a date with a turd! WTF,ok he's not interested, why say anything? How about thank you for a nice evening! Oh that would be toooo normal. Stay the course! Hunter

hey betterthanever! I commend you for putting yourself out there and dating! It doesn't really matter how it went...you did it and that says a lot about your process. You want to move forward. Many people sit and wait for something to happen and never actually MAKE something happen. You went for it and that's how you move forward regardless of how things turned out. I know the feeling of going out on a date and only thinking about the ex. DO NOT RESPOND. I know you won't but I felt the need to remind you. Did you see the NO CONTACT CONTRACT I put up a few days ago? Print it out and read it... :)

Don't these men just crack you up...all's you did was go on a date with the guy, you weren't looking to pull him down the aisle! What a LOSER. 'I don't think it will work in the long run...' WTF is that? Could he be any more full of himself? YUCK! It's too bad you had to spend a few hours with him but it's just as well he sent you that text. He's a problem you could totally live without. What a complete EGO MANIAC! yuck! If it weren't so pathetic it would be funny. RED FLAGS FLYING HIGH! I, too, am having one of the worse days I've had in a while and it is suprising me. I am vowing to keep fighting, though, BTE. I just posted my problem on the 4-6 site if you're interested in taking a look. You were triggered by this COMPLETE JERK you had a date with's STUPID SELF CENTERED TEXT and that's all. You know it's HIS (and your N's) LOSS. Keep fighting. Keep strong. Stay NC. Good things will come of it. I promise. Most sincerely, (fighting to keep from) spinning. I REJECT ALL SHAME AND DOUBT.