Having a hard day - pls Help!

DO NOT despair , I often feel the same way you do and I am 2 years out, you just have to hang in there and tell yourself you will get through this. I have not met anyone either in all the time since he has moved away to another state, had a few dates but nothing with anyone to star even a friendship and it is not easy meeting any decent men in this age of the internet.Talk about feeling alone, i feel like an orphan, i have only a sister and son, both in 2 different states and both my parents have long died, it is terrible, i cannot tell you how ALONE i feel at times, i am starting to cry as i write this and not over the EXN, but because I have so little family left and a small support system of friends scattered over the country and now moving to a state where i know no one and am starting again.IT is not easy but have faith and hope things will get better. i bought 2 little wooden boxes that say those two words and carry them in my purse to give me the courage to go on in life...............It is just too bad you have to work with him, that makes if much harder to get over. i think you should keep emails to a professional level only,nothing personal, just my thoughts and ask for the same from you if you have to deal with him.

Pls don't miss a guy that is abusive,,I know you do, you miss the passion that you gave him,,guess what, that passion is you not him,,, If you work near him, better get real NC real quick. Like don't look at him (this is tough, it can be done. Don't email him, text, nothing. Be far away from him, ignore his energies. Yes it hurts, you need to know better by now. The day will come when you realize how hurtful, abusive, he was, and you will be grateful you had the courage to get away.

Omg I just made the same post. I am crying too

Come on!! You were doing so well! Be strong! Being alone is better than being abused!

You should all read it. I posted something on there that i wrote at the start of this painful journey.

I'm right there with you. 2 yrs out and I have talked to guys but not interested. Did date after the breakup 2 yrs ago but quickly realized, I was just delaying the healing and growth. Here the exN is celebrating the first VD with his new wife and in 2 weeks, their 1st wedding anniversary. And while he quickly had her sitting in the wings when we broke up, I struggle every day with the damage he did. I know I am better off. I know my son is too. I do know that who he married is a mirror image of himself...amoral people that only think of themselves and jump quickly into relationships without knowing someone. I get it. It hurts that his family who I fell in love with is now spending time with her and her two young kids. My family, discarded and forgotten. it hurts. I do miss some things about him but, if I didn't do what he wanted, how he wanted it, I was not right for him. If my son didnt act the way he wanted, he pulled away and ignored him. I've read many posts on here about not to think that he is any different with the OW. If I can get through this first yr, their first anniversary, without a huge meltdown, I can do it. Too many friends, male friends, tell me that he isn't worth it. One guy even said he got an icky feeling when he shook the exN hand. he was TOO nice, TOO over the top. It gave my guy friend a warning bell. interesting that a guy picked up on that. I guess that is why my exN has no guy friends. I haven't heard from my exN in almost 2 yrs. Caught him once driving by the house last summer. Dont think he is making weekly trips but, I'm sure once in a while he checks. I just want his memory gone forever.

Journey - Wipe those tears away! Take comfort knowing that yesterday you were excited about something that wasn't about the exN & you WILL have many more of those days! You are strong. You are beautiful & you DESERVE better! (Big Hugs) Nan

Hey Journey, I'm so sorry you are having a bad day. It's been up and down for me a lot today. I'm so tired of feeling like this. It's exhausting! I can't focus because everything always comes back to HIM! He doesn't deserve that and yours doesn't either!!! Did you answer his emails? They are such cruel people! In their minds they think that we should be so lucky to get that little crumb from them because they are so wonderful! BS! It makes me SICK! I miss the man I fell in love with a lot but I know I will NEVER get that back. Even if I got the Narc back I wouldn't have the man I fell in love with. I'm trying to digest that and it's hard. It's a fight with my brain and heart every single day. Hang in there and I hope it gets easier soon! Hugs!! Sara