have to see him in one week.. scared

i have been about 7 months limited contact. never alone with him since the discard. always with my father or mother. have done child swap. he had the big house and our daughter. although i do not like it, his sister is there with him caring for our daughter and i trust her. i live with my elderly parents and although tbey would love to have her here, it would be a mistake because my mother is an abusive domineering narc of the worst kind. living with my parents is sheer hell, but nothing compared to 11 years with the narc. we are driving up there to get all my furntiure, etc. stuff my parents bought us or i brought into the marriage. don't know what to expect. ow could be there. i thought about texting him and telling him to show some respect and i didn't want any drama, but i thiik that is a bad idea. getting nervous about this. my daughter is going to be sad because mama is taking all her stuff out of the house. im getting bugged out about this. it is going to be painful. how i wish i had gotten my stuff in the beginning. but it was not possible.we have not fought over our daughter, even though i hate him he is a fairly good father, don't know how long that will last. he keeps me out of the loop because he is preoccupied with his new woman and her drama ( she is also married, etc) thisw is such a messy sityuation, i should expect the worst and prepare myself, i guess. any support would be helpful. having trouble concentrating.