Has Anyone's "N" suffered a reversal of fortune?

It is bound to happen. Just a matter of time.....

The last I heard (this was 9 years ago), my ex-Psychopath professor had married, and had twins with the OW, and his parents were LIVING WITH HIM raising his kids (and as I told my friends, the parents were raising him) MOST of the professors who have kids either rely on (a)daycare (b)having students babysit/be nannies (c)one of the spouses stays home to raise the kids. I don't know if he's still with the OW. But... his parents must be keeping close tabs on him. After all, they committed him to an insane asylum at the tender age of 7 for his psychopathic tendencies. What's WEIRD is that the "having his parents move in and help raise the kids" prediction was the one I made... for myself. Dodged that bullet.

I am still watching the burn. After a few months into the relationship, my exN told me he used to have a problem with drugs. He was so clean cut, worked hard, everyone loved him, I thought that it was "over". I knew people who had gotten sober and were wonderful, even better than wonderful. After five years of him begging, I sold my house in Cali (not in his name) so we could move to north Idaho and he could have the life he really wanted. Hunting, fishing, farming, freedom. Oh, and methamphetamine. Within a few months he relapsed. Within two years, I was a complete isolated MESS, so depressed I thought of suicide as a "friend" and he'd burned through 178K of MY money. When I finally turned him into the sheriff, there was 9K left. I retained a lawyer for 3500 of that. He managed to get 20% of the value of the house when (if ever in this economy) sells. He had no assets of his own. I bought the underwear on his nasty ass. He slid downhill pretty fast. First the restraining order and a few weeks in jail. The RO made him homeless. He had to live in a camper trailer for while. Then a methamphetamine charge I wasn't aware of came due and off to jail he went. A year later, the man who told me he was too smart to ever go to prison was given a felony and probation. Three weeks to the day after that, he was busted for hiding firearms in the basement of the sober living house. Six counts of felony firearm possession, and one count of felony drug possession. 22 months in prison. He got out last September, and by the end of December, was arrested for meth again. And again, in April. He was evicted from his home in April too. He was just sentenced to another drug felony and sentenced to 24 months in some prison drug treatment center. This is a man who was an RN in the state of Cali when we met. The karma bus ran over him about seventy nine thousand times. The thing is . . . I admit I do feel a thin kind of satisfaction. That idiot destroyed me financially, and broke my heart in some weird, final way. I loved him very much. I gave him everything, shared everything good I'd worked so hard for. And he used me and trashed me. I had to live with my little sister for a year before I could even dare be on my own again, that's how far down I went. No confidence, no trust in myself, terrible fear every day. At the same time I don't enjoy seeing people destroy themselves, even if it is the person who tried hard to destroy me. But it validates me, I admit that.

Well, in a nutshell, this is what happened. After I moved out, and my N's sleazy new girlfriend moved in (like a week after I left)he had to scramble to get $$$ together to bay all the utility, rent, and his personal bills all by himself. Since she didnt have a job, and had no intention of getting one, other than to bang him nightly, he had to bring in a few extra buddies, of questionable ethics, of course, to help him with rent. Then, his Daddy, NPD Sr., had a little-bitty run in with the law. He was at the tender age of 53, discovered having a sexual liason with his 15 year old stepdaughter (yuck), and was convicted and thrown in the pokey. Truly an embarrassing situation for him. Finally, during the Holidays, no less, the GF left him. She basically kept moving her stuff out, littlt by little right under his nose until he realized what happened and said WTF?! As it turns out, she was really just using him to get back at her estranged husband the whole two months she was there, but eventually reconciled with him and left my exN as shall we put it "high and dry with NO SUPPLY." (dont worry Lisa, I have no plans to copyright that phrase LOL!) Nowadays, he's obese (well over 350-375 lbs it looks like, at 5'10")and not in good health. He's really let himself go. He dated/cohabitated with several girls after the first one, each increasingly more scabby looking and clueless than the last (I thought your'e supposed to trade up after you dump someone eh?) and now married to someone who seemes to be either in complete oblivion about who he is. On his face book page, he still calls me "Evil" and refuses to refer to me by my real name, even though I've managed to maintain NC for over 7 years nowl......I completely cut him off from day 1. It doesn't make any sense why he would do that when he's the one who cheated and left.....initially. What seems to have happened is that I cut him off from a MAJOR supply source and he's still pissed about that after all these years. Apparently I had something that he could never quite recapture in any other relationship after me. Bottom line is, ladies......we all want justice and or revenge at some point, and "living well" for ourselves is certainly part of that, but I found to get any sense of justice and closure, you gotta cut them off and go NC for real. That's the only way you will ever be able to "hurt them." Cut 'em off ladies! It's the best thing you will ever do for yourself!

Lol...he doesn't think that 2+ glasses of wine and 4 glasses of whiskey is a huge factor in the ED problem? There's a reason for the term "whiskey dick". ;)

It's definitely true that the best revenge is living well - getting to that point where you don't care is so liberating. That being said, I fully understand the fall from grace need :) Here's a glimpse of what happened to my N after I got rid of him: He relied on me for pretty much all support, though constantly berated me for asking him to pay anything for rent, bills, etc because I made more money. Always complained about where we lived, decisions I made, etc. Had no credit to speak of. So, of course, when I kicked him out EVERYTHING was in my name. He is currently living in a rented room with a bathroom down the hall and no kitchen and a loft bed which he broke the ladder on and can't use. His minimal salary/hours got cut and pretty much none of our friends will speak to him at all because of his destructive affair. He looks AWFUL and smells worse. I have no idea if he's still with OW or not, but I know for a fact - she's not getting any good sex ;) I on the other hand have my wonderful 2BR apt, clothes, food, fun and friends. You reap what you sow :)

Mine's pretty pleased with himself a lot of the time but knows i think that he does n't really have much and what do any of them have with such bad relationship prospects and in this one's case, few close friends. also has MS which must be pretty depressing even if you're in denial. i think karma will take care of them.

I have wished many times that mine would be completely exposed and go to work day after day and find that no one showed up. But in reality, what could ever be worse than never knowing how to give or feel love?

Mine D&D me dec 2008...may2009 saw him...Gained a lot of weight (28 pounds) he was already big 6'1 and 240 ,now plus the 28....but every inch of that is in his belly and ass (he is afro-american),when we were together he was eating a lot healthier,trying to quit smoking and cut off the Pepsis and sugar was only drinking green tea with lemon,no alcohool...now he is drinking at least a six ack pepsi a day,dark rum,only eating high carbo foods,smoking a pack of marlboro a day,has apnea,says his skin is itching a lot....he eats always after midnight while at the pc and drinks tons of orange juice and coffie....has a lot of headeaches,andsays he is always tired,even when he wakes up....i suspect he has diabetes and high cholesterol....it runs in his family(mother,grandmother,sisters) i di smell kind of a acetone smell in his breath,which is a sign of ketosis (is when your pancreas cannot work proper anymore,so it takes the fuel oo alll your cells) is very dangerous because he can get kidney failure and lever failure and a stroke due to high cholesterol and blood pressure....i know because i am a diabetic and i see he is always thirst and craving for fat .rich foods and has mood swings.....I told him so many times to see a doctor,but he won't...he is 42,i am afraid he won't last long....he sleeps on an inflated bed,has 2 lawn chairs,no tv...he has a car,a gun,and a PC....His house is very neat,kitchen and bathroom very clean....i feel sorry for him,i really wanted to stay connected in the beginning but he says he is ok,he wants nothing to do with me and he is sure something good is gonna happen to him.....and that i should stay in my rich country Holland and leave him alone....he is NC on me.

I know it is often said that living well is truly the greatest revenge and maybe so... But there is nothing like seeing those who inflicted so much pain and hardship onto your life, get what they've got coming to them. Just my opinion.

. . . his fortune would reverse, but then I think, What does he even have? Yeah, he has a prestigious job, a big income and a huge house. But he's alone, can't have a relationship, can't even properly screw a girl, can't have children, weighs about a hundred and fifteen pounds wet, is shriveled up, wrinkled, a chain smoker of Marlboro reds, drinks at least a fifth of vodka a day and probably has sleep apnea, cancer and liver disease already. i would love to see his "child" taken away and put in a proper home. I would love to see his house fall apart and his car break down. I've reported him to his bosses and to child protective services, so at least some people know there are issues, and all the cops in the neighborhood know he is an abusive man, even if he tells them "It's her fault." Some damage has been done, and he's not quitting smoking or anything else as far as I can see, so the chips are gonna fall at some point. I have never wished ill will, but seriously . . . .

After my first D&D (lasted about 6 weeks) we reconnected and he suddenly got booted out of his rental house and had only a few weeks to pack everything up (there was lots and lots of stuff hoarded from his father's death, mother's move, and older kid's storage at Dad's place). He now has 2 storage lockers and is living in an airstream at his boat club. I wondered about karma at the time ;-) Also, the ED thing, well mine began on Viagara and then last year suddenly switched to cock and frenum rings which totally turned me off. So, maybe they'll kick in some day LOL!

Right after he broke up with me, my ex lost hours at work. My best friend said that was a karmic bitch slap, because my ex is really money-focused, even though he lives with his mommy and has few expenses.

You have a Mel Gibson thing happening to you!! Nuff said? Or do you need more info? As for the sexual dysfunction...from my experience...it starts in their 20s!