Has anyone experienced a high functioning aloof N?
Has anyone experienced a high functioning aloof N?
My N drove me crazy by his disappearing acts, invalidation and ignoring. During the honeymoon stage he was more available, of course. Once he figured he had me hooked, he started the withdrawal phase which made me want him even more. The push/pull phase began.
I have a huge issue with being ignored due to past abuse and this jerk figured it out. Because he was an arrogant lawyer, he acted as he was busy all the time...too busy to send a two word text in response to mine. He would ignore my correspondence for an entire day, on purpose (And no, I didn't call/text often). Then he would taunt me the next day saying he was off at the lake, another part of the world, Las Vegas or whatever. Next I would get an "I love u, c u soon."
A number of times, I ended the so called relationship and a few weeks later, he would call and act as if nothing happened. This went on for years. At one point, he told me that if I was "good," I would get more evenings out. A real sicko and a serious sadistic MF.
My issue...why did I tolerate this crap for so many years? I lived on hope and fantasy and made myself seriously sick. Talk about being a prisoner of my own mind!!! I couldn't accept the fact that such a brilliant, succesful and so called "spiritual" guy could be so abusive. The image didn't fit the behavior.
Since this "last" narc
LML
Oh yes absolutely this was
Love
toddler in a suit
funny
LML
Great name for a narc
Tenured Toddler
tresor2
Abducted....makes sense
Addiction
Wounded little boy
Age 7
tresor2 ... you have a MA in Psychology???
My replacement
Psychiatrist
MA
the high functioning N
same story here, exactly
I know why