this isn't just about the narc but i think he put the nail in the coffin for me. this is about being too nice, not getting my needs met, being afraid to be alone. i'm doing a lot of soul searching. its painful. i cry alot. i feel abandoned alot. nothing seems to be working in my life, and still i am consumed...by my life. its selfish and i've neglected friends and family. just can't seem to get out of this rut.