Had a big argument with my sister
Had a big argument with my sister
It was her (now ex) husband who for years abused me, emotionally and verbally, growing up, after my parents died. She just stood by and let it all happen.
I swallowed it for years. I even forgave her and him. Let it all go. But, to still pick at me? To still demean me, put me down...etc? No. I decided yesterday, I was going to finally stand up to her.
Not going to get into the details, but suffice to say she sent me an email disapproving of how I handled something. I'm taking my daughter to a concert next weekend, and wanted to stay with her, since it's close to the theater. She was fine with this at first, last minute...she changes her mind, telling me she might not be around. This is nothing new for her. I said I'd ask her son then. To stay with him. She gets snippy, and basically implies that I'm 'using' them. hahaha Gee...I thought this is what family does for one another in need? I'm not asking for $50k. Really? This has been my underlying problem all my life...as to why I've been drawn to narcs as an adult. Because I grew up with them!
So...I stood up to her, and put her in her place. Said nothing that was that over the top, but definitely struck a few nerves. And you know what? It felt great! Great not to be at conflict with her, but to speak my mind. To finally say...HOLD UP...YOU WILL NOT SPEAK TO ME LIKE A CHILD ANY LONGER. YOU WILL NOT DEMEAN ME ANY LONGER. Sorry, I'm not accepting this behavior anymore from you.
Yay me! This may very well help me in my recovery from dating that jerk. I am sad today though, because it sucks to not have a normal, loving family. And while my sister has done a lot for me, she has also been the cause of a lot of pain for me. Her and her ex. I have forgiven, but telling her off...helped me to stand up for myself. To stand up to the very person who I feel, I've had to walk on eggshells for off and on...all my life. Things were much much better between us...she and I were getting along great the past few years. But...then this? Making me feel bad simply because I asked to stay with her? Accusing me of all sorts of behaviors, that weren't true?
My new motto. If you wish to bring me down. If you wish to demean me. You have no place in my life. For whatever your reasons. Go see a shrink. Go on med. Whatever. But, I will no longer be ANYONE's emotional punching bag, any longer.
Day 6...not logging into that site. :=) Happy Saturday everybody!
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