Guilty feelings about being the OW
Guilty feelings about being the OW
My Narc was married when we started seeing each other. I heard the typical garbage about his marriage that they say about every woman they are D&D. She was cold, evil, CRAZY, and they hadn't slept together in months and their marriage was over. All lies! I bought it hook, line and sinker and jumped in head first! I hated the ex-wife because of all the garbage he told me about her! I remember thinking how could someone be so awful to this wonderful man!! (GAG) He fed me lies and BS about her for 3 years and I believed everything.
Now that I'm out of insanity and I found this site I see things very different. Every time I read what we say about the OW I think about her and what I was doing to her emotionally. I was the OW and she thought the things about ME that we all think about the OW. I feel SO GUILTY because I know now how much pain I caused her. I wonder if she found a place like this to help her survive and recover. I wonder how many times he hoovered her and tormented her like he does me. I emailed her about 2 months ago and apologized and I didn't hear anything back from her and I don't blame her for not responding. I'm sure she curses my name daily and wishes nothing but pain and suffering for me. I don't blame her at all either. I understand the pain I caused her and will forever regret it.
For all of you worried about the fairy tale life your Narc is having with the OW think about this.........at one time a lot of us were the OW and look how well that turned out for US!!!!
I heard my Narcs ex has turned into a party girl and is stoned and drunk a lot. I wonder if that is how she deals with all of the pain. I would give anything if I could fix what I did to her.
Were any of you the OW at one time?
being the OW
sara, yes...
spinning
Mine told me the typical
I was also the OW. My exN was
sara
sara that was so touching im crying
Jaycee
Not by my choice.
momoya
To all of you who feel guilty or angry
I'm not sure the first time
I wasn't, but I feel for all
Yes
Thinking of the OW
i agree
I didn't even know that I was the OW!!!