GUESS WHAT! Found out the EXNARC DOES NOT have cancer after all!

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#1 Mar 26 - 10AM
onwithmylife
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GUESS WHAT! Found out the EXNARC DOES NOT have cancer after all!

I have been writing comments about the exNarc having cancers but today I called up his one son,the only one that talks to him in another state to wish him, the son, a happy birthday and then asked innocently how his dad was doing, saying I heard he had two types of cancer, his son responded that he did have a scare earlier this fall but nothing happened and that his dad is enjoying the state, doing projects on his house and meeting the other old geezers at a local senior center where he probably goes for lunch during the week. Well I was surprised but it had nothing to do with the narc, found out the info from his first wife's husband, who probably only got part of the answer, which was true at the time, but never found out the final outcome,so much for what goes around comes around!I have this funny desire to visit the senior center on the pretext of doing some historical research, as I am volunteering at an old mansion nearby, just to get a final look at his ugly self and give myself some closure, if he doesn't die of cancers, maybe he would get a heart attack if he saw me!!!!He totally obliterates people from his mind that will cause any guilt!

Mar 27 - 11AM
Miss Lewis
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Mine tried that Tactic,aswell.

He is not actually MY Narc, that sounded Narcy! But my experiences with a Narc were similair.I was going hard-core "NO-contact". After one week, I went to take my trash out in the evening and left my door open for like two minutes and what absolute timing; HE SNUCK IN!!! Once inside, I attempted to persuade him to leave, than I outright kicked him out.He than (attemtpted) to play apon my compassion and informed me that he had an illness (wasn't clever enough to sepcify what type of illness) and that his doctor told him he had 1 year to live.I burst out laughing! Pathetic! Of course their ws no truth to this.
Mar 27 - 8AM
helldweller
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onwithmylife

Mine told me he had cancer last year, when I left him and started seeing someone else. He took me in his arms cradling and rocking me and crying, telling me how scared he was. It was so unlike him and I was so scared. I immediately left the new guy and went back to him. After three months he still hadn't gone for treatment and so I told his brothers (he had sworn me to secrecy, saying I was the only one he wanted to do about it, he didn't want them to be scared). He told them he had never told me he was sick, that I made it up because I'm crazy. Totally f*cking insane.
Mar 27 - 8AM
sadderbutwiser
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on with my life

i thought you just moved to another state? you said you volunteer nearby the senior center where he visits. you moved to the state where he lives?? are you kidding??? what the hell??? i'm confused.
Mar 27 - 9AM (Reply to #15)
onwithmylife
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sadderbutwiser

Let me explain some things for you and thanks for asking, it is rather confusing! I did move to the state he moved to BUT not to be close to him, I am through with the disordered man, but I came up here for a visit and loved the state, people and more relaxed lifestyle and decided to move up here once I sold my place. I had lived in the other state for a long time and needed a change badly, everywhere I went reminded me of him as we were together for 15 years. I mentioned that.I am doing some volunteer work in a place 18 miles from where it lives. It is NOT an excuse to go see him, as he threatened me with stalking charges if I ever came onto his property. I KNOW real sick, but I was kidding about going to the senior center and bumping into him, would be funny to see the look of HORROR on his face. I am not chasing after him and I once wrote a postthat out of something so horrible can come something really good, for I would have never moved here if i had not gotten the inspiration from him!I do not care if he lives in the same state but the change is soo good for me and I love the city I live in, are things a little clearer now?
Mar 27 - 6AM
jen79
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onwithmylife OMG

GOd!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is so unbelievable. My god. Sweetie, hope you find now closure with this bastard. He doesnt deserve one more single thought from you! These bastards are unbelievable. Who toys with cancer and death? Please stay away from him forever. Dont have a last look, you know see the whole evilness here. Gosh I want to vomit. I am so tired of them. So so so damn tirred.
Mar 27 - 6AM (Reply to #11)
onwithmylife
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Jen79

I know the guy is a total ass, but he did not falsify the information, I got the information from his first wives, second husband and I guess he did not get the whole story, the Narc did have a cancer scare last fall from the doctors but it turned out to be false, so in truth the narc is not to blame, just want to set the record straight on that point.He is guilty of many things but not this one..
Mar 27 - 9AM (Reply to #12)
jen79
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I understand

really weird still. Why did she make this up? Please dont go back for a last look anyway.
Mar 27 - 9AM (Reply to #13)
onwithmylife
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Jen79

It was not made up,I really doubt that, the Exnar calls his son every week and probably told him, the son, that the doctor thought the Narc had cancers and her husband conveyed that to me, without getting all the information, a case of misinformation . Curiousity killed the cat so I probably will not want to face him again, although part of me thinks it would be interesting, knowing all that I know NOW.
Mar 26 - 9PM
Susan32
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I'd laugh at him

I wouldn't laugh at someone who's REALLY suffering from cancer. But in his case, YOU should get the last laugh. Ns/Ps don't like being laughed at. The best way to get closure is to come in, pretending you're feeling sad about his cancer... then start sneering and laughing at him. The ex-Psych professor would ALWAYS run away when he was being laughed at. Come in, with some false tears, saying, "I heard about your cancers. It must be difficult. I love love you"--then turn it around to a massive LOL... and your tears will be from laughter. If his antics are that juvenile, treat him like a comedy routine. You might want to bring a laugh track with you.
Mar 27 - 5AM (Reply to #9)
onwithmylife
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Funny Susan!

I like that routine, the only problem is he will be gone so fast from the old geezer center, it will be like watching the roadrunner!!!!Leaving his lunch behind....
Mar 26 - 7PM
Steph
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Unfortuneately, if you did

Unfortuneately, if you did show up, he likely wouldn't have a heart attack....he'd have an erection! Seriously.....he'd think "wow, someone still thinks of me. i must have really made an impact!" They are such losers.
Mar 27 - 5AM (Reply to #7)
onwithmylife
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stayingstrong78

In HIS case he would have to have a Viagra handy as he has had ED problems for a few years and i know why, only he doesn't and it can stay that way!!!hahahah You are sure right about losers and pathetic little toddlers too!
Mar 26 - 5PM
Jewwell
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Heart Problems ???????

I hadn't heard from the N in 8 days since I broke NC and I just got a text -- he has serious heart problems + Extreme stress and that's why I haven't heard from him. True?? Wants some sympathy?? Who knows!!!
Mar 26 - 9PM (Reply to #5)
michele115 (not verified)
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Jewwell

And right now, you too have some serious heart problems and extreme stress which is why he won't be hearing from you either...LOL SMH... Hugs!
Mar 26 - 11AM
Susan32
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It would bring out my snark

So many posters here mention that Ns/Ps tend to mock others cruelly, but cannot bear any ridicule (mine would literally run away and/or end conversations if he thought he was being laughed at) Yikes, I would've told him- "I was going to stop by the morgue to say hi." "Darn it! I pre-ordered your memorial tribute album. (whines) Now I have to cancel it. No fair!" "I thought you were dying. I'm disappointed." "So, you were trying out for 'Love Story' as the Ali McGraw character who died from cancer? Good luck with the audition." (in acting, telling someone "good luck" is considered bad luck) "So, are you a zombie or a vampire now? We can have garlic bread at Olive Garden." I guess my humor is passive-aggressive.
Mar 26 - 11AM
Lisa E. Scott
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Yes

Yes, they will do anything for attention. Tell you they are dying is one I have heard before. It doesn't surprise me, but it does infuriate me. I understand why you are so angry, but don't feed into it. Just use it as further proof and validation that you must stay way the hell away from him!! Don't go near him, hon. Take care of yourself today instead. Get a massage, see a movie, go for a walk, grab a cup of coffee with a friend. Anything, but feed into his craziness,k?
Mar 26 - 10AM
Used
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no suprise there

no cancer aha, exn, had heart attack, diebetis[spelling], swine flu, all when i was no longer seeing him, when i began seeing him again, he denied all this illnesses saying, he thought he did, omg they are pathetic scumbags, he even smirked when he said, you came back tho, well i didnt this time 18mnths nc, thank god.