Grandiosity...oh, the grandiosity

This is the #1 thing that stood out to me when researching narcissism. My ex is CONSUMED by thoughts of becoming a CEO/corporate success, and all the riches, power and prestige that come along with it. ALL he thinks about is his career and how he's going to make it happen. I found this explanation on Sam Vaknin's website:

"The narcissist believes in his omnipotence. "Believe" in this context is a weak word. He knows. It is a cellular certainty, almost biological, it flows in his blood and permeates every niche of his being. The narcissist "knows" that he can do anything he chooses to do and excel in it. What the narcissist does, what he excels at, what he achieves, depends only on his volition. To his mind, there is no other determinant."

My ex once said to me "I have gotten every single thing I've wanted in life. I always get what I want". Obviously bull, NO ONE gets EVERYTHING they want.

"He is genuinely surprised and devastated when he fails, when the "universe" does not arrange itself, magically, to accommodate his unbounded fantasies, when it (and people in it) does not comply with his whims and wishes. He often denies away such discrepancies, deletes them from his memory. As a result, he remembers his life as a patchy quilt of unrelated events and people "

Obviously, they just choose to completely block out the times they havent gotten what they wanted. He had added onto that sentence "I wanted you and I got you". Both kind creepy and also telling of why they MUST devalue you if you leave them/are going to leave them. They make themselves believe that they didnt want you anyways, that it wasnt going to work out. Their fragile egos cannot handle EVER feeling like they've failed at anything.

What a sad state of existence.

Hopefully this spoke to others as it did to me!