Got a Restraining Order: Blackmail + Extortion + Harassment + Cyber-bullying
Got a Restraining Order: Blackmail + Extortion + Harassment + Cyber-bullying
I am back gals. Would appreciate any imput from my fellow survivors.
Almost 8 months since my narc break up, to this day he's causing trouble again. A few days ago, I got the courage to file, and was granted a 1-year restraining order against ex narc for extortion, blackmail, harassment cyber-bullying.
Narc/psychopath commmissioned me to do his company name branding from scratch: website design, copywriting, graphics, photography, corporate video, logo, legal contracts - everything. He breached contract. Refused to pay.
When I broke if off with him, he threatened and blackmailed me, that if I don't give him my work for free, he would run to my ex-husband and spill "secrets" about me.
I am in a custody dispute with my ex-husband, so this THREAT is especially troublesome.
Scared I just let him use the website. A couple of months ago, he texted me saying he wanted the logo emailed to him. I said no, not until I receive payment. He demanded I send him the copyrights to my video, too. I said no, not until I am paid. To keep him off my back, I added my copyright to the video, and let him air it on the homepage of his website.
But he wanted more than that. My refusal to give him the rights to the corporate video and email him high-resolution copies of the logo triggered NARC to launch an all out, online libel campaign of my business and me personally. 20+ character assaults of my company and me as a mother. He described me as "white trash" a "drunk" and a terrible mother.
Imagine the fear I felt every day waking up, checking online for another character assault. I am currently in a legal fight seeking full custody of my daughter with my ex-narc husband millionaire abuser. We have joint custody.
The ex boyfriend narc told me "give me the work, or I will run to your ex-husband."
The threats, intimidation and cyber-bullying have caused me nightmares for one month straight, as well as a full month of terrifying dreams back in October when the 1st threats were initiated against me.
I can't fall asleep well. It takes forever. I am anxiety-ridden day and night. Scared. Frightened. The other day, I tried, with my lawyer intervening, to get the ex to sign a document to stop the cyber-bullying, defamation campaign. Narc refused. Instead he stated in writing, there are "repercussions" for my actions. He then wrote another libel review online.
That's when I had enough.I worked the phones, called the police, the YWCA, two attorney friends of the family, my BFF's and then ran to the court with my evidence, and got a restraining order immediately. NARC just got served today.
I feel relieved, yet scared. Terrified.
My question and worry is, will he be further provoked to threaten and intimidate? Did I do the right thing?
Best,
SusNebraska
I had to get a Restraining Order too.
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