1. Home
  2. Forums
  3. Narcissist Forums
  4. All About Him Forum
  5. Got dumped last night, can I dispose of his things without being sued?

Got dumped last night, can I dispose of his things without being sued?

4 posts / 0 new
Last post
#1 May 29 - 6AM
Sooziel4
Sooziel4's picture

Got dumped last night, can I dispose of his things without being sued?

After being with my narc for a year he dumped me cruely, inhumanely and viciously 2 nights ago. When I really told him off and let everything I had bottled up since almost the beginning he started being very nice and said maybe we could get back together in 6 mos or a year if either of us felt a yearning. I have gone completely no contact and even went so far as to tell him if he showed up at my place I have a gun and know how to use it. (He taught me, of course). The extreme anger is now sorrow like mourning a death but I will never let anyone do this to me again. I know once I am around normal people again I will look back and be amazed that I let him do the things he did to me. My question is that when he left on his "business trip" he left many of his things in my house. I want to sell what I can to recoup all I have spent on him. I have been advised by a friend he could sue me for this. Does anyone know? I so want justice right now!

May 29 - 9AM
deecbee
deecbee's picture

I think he can sue you if he

I think he can sue you if he never had an opportunity to pick it up (lol, I'm only going off a few episodes of Judge Judy haha). Maybe for right now just go cold turkey to the point that if he does contact you for his stuff, he gets no response? Box it up and throw it down the stairs into the basement so you don't have to look at it.
May 29 - 7AM
onwithmylife
onwithmylife's picture

Soozie

i went thru something similar, where the narc did not come back to collect a bunch of his belongings I was storing for him, thinking he would come back after he moved away to an other state.He had changed his phone number and I could not call him.so I sent a certified, return receipt to his last known address with my return address on it and the letter came back to me unclaimed and I held onto it until recently, it has been 2 years and meanwhile sold, gave away, any of his stuff, other than want I wanted to keep, in that way they cannot come back and sue you.YOU sound really strong and know what happened to you by the narc, way to go!!!what a true narc, maybe we can get back together months later if either of us feel like it, that is TRUE commitment, NOT NOT!!!!
May 29 - 9AM (Reply to #2)
Sooziel4
Sooziel4's picture

GETTING RID OF HIS THINGS

dear owml - i like this name, I'll have to come up with a better one! I just composed the letter to send certified. I so want to get his things out of my house. the anger is subsiding and now it's is grief like mourning a death. I guess this is natural even considering the circumstances of whom I was dealing with. I went to 3 different counselors who tried to help me leave him, I had been reading everything I could about narcs to fortify myself against the abuse but I was addicted. Already I have small periods of relief he is gone. I moved to a new state, new job a year ago and he followed me and we lived together off and on (on my dime)he was mostly out of work. I am picking myself up with no friends, relatively new to the area and have to now begin to make a life for myself in an area where there is no life. Its so hard to be alone and deal with this loss but I know it is true that I have to work it, be patient and I have forgotten what it is not to be a scared, needy, dependent wreck trying harder to get this man to be good to me. He was the worst kind of narc, train wreck. Of all my reading about narcs online this was the one site that helped the most. I finally "woke up" when I read Alexandria Nouri's writings. I found my narc completely described there and I couldn't deny it any longer. Her sarcastic funny tilt on it all was exactly what I needed. I even called a locksmith when he went on his last "work trip" to lock him out and I was going to put his things in storage but he showed back up 1/2 hr before the locksmith got here and once again I played his game. More cruel than any other time. He even mentioned he was working on a new relationship and if I worked out he was "out of here". With a much younger woman of course. Then he denied it and said he was just joking. On his previous trip I called him and there was a woman giggling in the background and he said oh, she was the only one he trusted with his car keys and she was keeping them for him and he used to rent a room from her. Of course I didn't believe him and I was devastated. He showed back up 2 weeks late and gave me a pretty little gold antique wedding band to wear to make me "feel better". We went out to eat (I paid) and he told the waitress we were engaged. He never told me that. 2 hrs later he denied it. I asked him what the ring meant to him and he said it could mean anything I wanted to me. Crazy, carzy. I wore it for a while and then took it off in disgust. He made me feel bad about my hair, my age, my feet and hands are too big, wrong underwear, don't have "walking around sense", need therapy for being co-dependent, my nose is too big. He'd put a sheet between our faces at night because he said my hair scratched his face. The first devaluation came the day I met him and it was my car. What a joke of a car. It was a brand new SUV which has a high rating and he was driving an older pick-up truck. He never let up about the car. Of course he drove it and not his truck any time we went anywhere complaing about it the whole time. He'd be on a trip and I'd ask him about his job on the phone and he'd go into a narc rage and threaten to leave me. It was none of my business. The crazy part was that he really was where he said and was working.....