Good book recommendations wanted

This guy is a psychotherapist and he is brilliant! and he validates what kind of man I deserve and the ones I should stay far far away from! "How to be an Adult in Relationships" by David Richo. a must read for whoever has survived a N. relationship and wants to eventually open their heart to a WORTHY man/woman

There was a great article somewhere about how the Great Books can be healing&helpful when dealing with NPD. ANYTHING by Sam Vaknin is helpful (his "Professor Narcissus" is basically a portrait of the ex-Psych prof) Now, some great literary works- "Anna Karenina" One can surmise that either Anna is a female Narc... or that she became a Narc over 7 years of narcissistic abuse from her cerebral Narc husband Alexei. Alexei is called a machine, that he has the soul of a bureaucrat. Reading this HELPED save my life during the final D&D. Chicago's own Oprah recommended it. And I agree. Constantine Levin is also a Narc, with his melodramatic courtship of Princess Kitty. It helps that Leo Tolstoy was a major Narc(???) "War and Peace" Prince Andrei is a cerebral Narc, Pierre might or might not be a Narc according to one's interpretation, Napoleon is definitely a Narc, as is Nicholas Rostov. Nicholas Rostov triangulates Princess Maria&Sonya... even after he's married. Prince Andrei emotionally abuses his pregnant wife Lisa, abandons Natasha, flees physical affection&has Daddy issues. Dolokhov&Anatole are psychopaths. It's a book full of Narcs. "Scarlet Letter" Set in the ex-P's home state of Massachusetts, no less, among the Puritans, who hypocritically condemn&project upon Hester Prynne. Her elderly husband, Chillingworth, is a cerebral Narc who abandons her (leading to her affair with Rev. Dimmesdale)... and is unforgiving, despite the fact she assumed he was dead. "Madame Bovary" She confuses real life with romance novels, takes two lovers, runs up debts, ends up killing herself. A histrionic female Narc. "Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures" Massachusetts' own Mary Baker Eddy shows the workings of a female cerebral Narc's mind in this seminal religious work. Disassociation, hatred of the body&anything that makes people "common",paranoia, projection... it's all here. Her chapter on Marriage is familiar to anyone who has dealt with Narcs' sexual issues. She blissfully speaks of a time when enlightened people will procreate asexually.

The first book I read was, Narcisstic Lovers: How to cope, Recover and Move on by Cynthia Zayn and Kevin Dibble. I recommend it!!

I have come across: Narcissistic Lovers - Cynthia Zayn Help I'm in Love with a Narcissist - Steven Carter/Julia Sokul They were both excellent and reading the first one (Narcissistic Lovers) was like having my relationship read back to me. It features a handful of real life stories one in particular about a man named Robert was so much like my own story I could hardly believe what I was reading.

Puzzling people- the labyrinth of the psychopath by Thomas sheridan - cannot recommend this book enough!

Go to You Tube and look up all these authors. Many of them have excellent videos to watch. I have spent hours watching them and they have helped me so much! BD

Linda Martinez-Lewi, how to get rid of the Narc in your Life. Sam Vaknin's book Maliginant Self Love, he is a Narc, but tells it like it is, Thomas Sheridan's book Puzzling People and When he is Married to Mom, cannot remember the author. hope this helps!

Hi Coffee, Like you I scrambled to find books to read to help me through this. There is one book I read called: How to Fall out of Love, I think the author is Deborah Phillips. You can get this book on Amazon.com for 6.99. Barnes and Noble had it in our local store. It is an older book and it is kind of odd but it describes strategies to change your mindset and associations. It was a different approach, hope this helps!

Besides Lisa's books, "Women Who Love Psychopaths" by Sandra Brown is a must read. It's one of the best books I've read on the subject.