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#1 Aug 10 - 11PM
driftingsister
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GIVE ME A SHAKE!!!

I've gone to the police today about him just in case he does do something ...
but he text me (stupidly I checked that inbox before my test tonight, I need to get someone to change the password on it)

"Before you hand my number out to someone without asking me and have them threaten me, just read the message I sent you. I love you dearly and will do anything to get us together properly, but if you don't want to know me anymore then I shall accept that. Please read the message.."

The message said..

I love you dearly. This last few weeks has given me time for a lot of reflection and to think. I love you, all of you good and bad. I want to be yours and you mine. I want us to be in a proper relationship hun. I'd let you see everything to help your trust in me build and your insecurities lessen. I miss your hair all over my bed, your warmth through your eyes and smile. I'll not text or ring, but I just needed to say this before you completely shut the door on me. Love you always my heart xox

WHY DOES IT GET TO ME? it shouldn't. He lies about everything, he lied about a twin sister who he uses as a mechanism to keep getting me back but I know she's not realy! Ahhh c'mon why is it so hard... someone give me a wake up call! that tiny bit of me wants to go back even though I know that it wasn't worth it, not one bit. I am so brainwashed though...

THis is his last attempt at manipulating me isnt it?

Aug 11 - 6AM
Hunter
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Delete,Delete,Delete! Live or

Delete,Delete,Delete! Live or Die. He gets to you because he can! Hunter
Aug 11 - 4AM
spinning
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DS, pretty, sparkly, empty

WORDS. They're master manipulators. Pros at it. It gets to you because it is designed to. You know too much now, however, to believe them. It's okay to wish you could believe them, but you KNOW OTHERWISE. Drifting, you are doing great. Please continue to keep the REALITY GLASSES firmly in place when you look at this situation. They do not change. Read the link Layla posted about reconciling with a psycho. It is spot on! I say this because I KNOW. I MADE THE MISTAKE AND IT COST ME DEARLY. Please continue in your strong position, even if your melting inside. Stay NC, press ahead despite the tug of war going on in your brain. It's part of the process, like Cgrl said, Cognitive dissonance is a byproduct of involvement with these freaks. You're doing great. Stay NC. Delete, delete, delete. And maybe you can consider blocking, too. A big hug to you and pat yourself on the back for posting here instead of reacting to the pretty word BS from an illusion. Most sincerely, (not) spinning. IT'S A FIGHT. IT'S A CHOICE. I CHOOSE ME. THE SICK FREAK TRIED HARD TO TAKE ME DOWN, BUT HE COULDN'T!

spinning

Aug 11 - 3AM
Cgrl
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Cognitive stuff

It gets to you because you still cant see that what he says and what he does are two different things. I know honey. I feel your pain. I too have got to stay far far away from anything like emails or text. They suck you in thinking he has come to his senses. He has no senses. None. Its all a trap to get you to feel empathy for him because he knows you are gentle and kind. Ignore ignore. Pursue what you set out to do. He will not change and I know this is the hardest thing to do is ignore them because we are not these people. We are helpful and understanding. It kills us to do this crap. I know they lie about everything and we KNOW this and we still accept this bad behavior - amazing isnt it?? what is it about them that has us so hooked? Its that wanting the guy they WERE when we first met. Its hoping and praying that if I just give him ONE MORE CHANCE that guy is in there - I KNOW IT!!! I just know it!!! He is not. He never was. There are so many things that are just so hard to accept about them. But we have too. Our lives depend on it.
Aug 11 - 2AM
sara-smile
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driftingsister

YES YES YES! This is his latest attempt to manipulate you. I swear my Narc could have written this email. I could go in my email and pull out 100 emails identical to this one. They make so many promise and get your hopes up so high only to smack you right in the face later on when his true colors come back out! DO NOT LISTEN TO HIM! When I read this stuff now instead of giving me hope or making me sad all I hear is BLAH BLAH BLAH. That is what it amounts to. NOTHING. Blah blah blah. He's a liar and a fraud and he doesn't mean a word he says. I promise you that you will be so much better off if you DELTE, ignore and stay NC! It is the only way to survive these crazy bastards! Hugs! Sara
Aug 10 - 11PM
Jeff
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Let it get to you

I can feel what you are suffering. These lying bastards can sweettalk their way out of anything. But you have got his number. Don't give in. Follow my instructions.. Take that message. Imagine him writing it. Can you see him upset, sobbing, struggling for words to express his feelings? Neither can I. So just proceed to step two: trash it. Do it. Now step three. Pick up the phone and book a massage. Be strong. Be happy in the knowledge that each day this sly SOB in your head and in your heart is getting smaller and smallet and will soon disappear. Big hug!