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#1 Mar 22 - 10AM
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Am I the one insane

I just want to tell my story as I feel at times I am the one insane. My H and I have been married for 10 yrs after 3 yrs living together. We have a 5 yr old daughter who is our pride and joy. We left a big city to live in H's home place in the country a venture on the cards for many years. Before moving, I was up to my eyes in renovations of our flat that was to be rented out. Our move to the country was to a house that was being built. As it was not completed we lived in a caravan for a no of mths. Prior to our move we did have a no of arguments and as I am well able to stand up for myself, I know I did alot if arguing back. My memory of those arguments are vague but words I remember using include you are a bulky, you are selfish and self centred. After the move H was very emotionally distant and spent most of his time in the house helping with the building. Myself and my daughter had to deal with life in the caravan which I found v lonely. I had little knowledge of the area. I used to ask H to spend more time with us but he wasn't interested. Eventually, I got so mad I told him I was taking daughter to my home place across the border. We made up and a wk later I found in the post a bill from a solicitor for matrimonial advice. He never said a word about it nor did he want to discuss it. I approached him a few times during that wk and arguments broke out all of which I now know did not look good for me. He then got an order preventing me taking my child across the border and his sister complained me to social services saying I was aggressive and controlling and shouted. These were words he used on me previously and I believe he was well aware And involved in some part in the making of the complaint. Although we made up after that he remained emotionally w/drawn. He would tell me I made his life miserable all during our marriage and recount stories wrongly. I decided ,that as I only ever get angry with him and our child was suffering, to tell him our marriage was over. I would also point out he had obviously been bad mouthing me to his family most if whom were not talking to me and he was lying to me about everything. This left me very alone in a strange place. During our marriage he has persistently used silent treatment on me that could go on for days and have gone on for more than a week on a few occassions. I have always found this treatment torturous and punishing. At the time our daughter was born, he went into a very stern form of silent treatment. Since then he has almost obsessive with our child. While I always thought of him being great with her and a fantastic father, lately I have been questioning this relationship as being too intense. She of course thinks the world of him and has been very critical of me behaving towards me with contempt. I couldn't get her to do anything for me but now I am more aware, I am dealing with her better. She can't bear to upset him and I never questioned this before. Lately his behaviour has been bizarre, leaving the house when it is just me and him there, when our child is here, he stays in his room. At night he is getting up around 1am and I have heard him up in the attic making a load of noise one night at this time. He keeps our daughter in his room and is locking the door although he denied it when i questioned him. She told me he told her to lock the door. I know tgere is nothing going on and the locking the door is to keep me out. I think he has had a plan for some time to get rid of me and has therefore taped me. I am at my wits end. My daughter and my husband have always been so important to me but I know that he thinks I am spoilt and lazy as these r words he has used before. I can tell you I am not spoilt or lazy. I haven't worked in 2 yrs but I have been financially independent of him. I wanted time with my daughter before she started school.

This latest fallout is going on for 6 mths and I have to find a place local. I feel like a trespasser in my own home but wouldn't want to be the one to stay here as his family lives all around it and I am already paranoid enough. I think the phone could be bugged. I cannot believe the person he is, I never saw this coming and I can't believe the person I am married to is completely different to the person I thought.

Any comments would be greatly appreciated.....

Mar 22 - 11AM
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Am I the one insane