getting to indifference and finally leaving it behind.

Morning ..

I am six months out of the N relationship and havent had contact for about 4.5 months. In the main I am doing great and I hardly recognise myself from the person I was when I was with the n. However, last night a friend of mine just mentioned the n's name and I am shocked by how I reacted... I went cold and my heart pounded. I hardly ever hear about him or anything but I would hope that I would be able to hear his name without this extreme reaction. I dreamt about him all night then and I am sort of haunted again today.

As he moved so close and is still hanging about with lots of people I used to hang with its likely we will cross paths and I dont want him to have this sort of effect on me... How can I get to indifference?

xx