Get ready for a new member...

as it is only a matter of time before Wanna B's NGF finds her way here. The 3 month story book romance, played out in disgusting detail on FB, is unfolding. Why?

BECAUSE THESE FUCKERS NEVER CHANGE!!!!!! That's why. So, all of you who think the OW or NGF are better, prettier, younger, smarter, richer, sexier, more accomodating,blah, blah, blah, than you are, LISTEN UP NOW!!

THEY NEVER CHANGE. repeat THEY NEVER CHANGE

The NGF thought (as did I) that she had a prince. Wanna B was kind, respectful, thoughtful, considerate. He introduced her to his friends, his mother. He played his guitar for her friend's party, he watched baseball with her Grandma, he took her on fun outings and always paid for dinner and drinks. He bought her roses. He called when he said he would.Everything he did for me (except the Grandma part!), he did for her. In his eyes, she was exactly what he was looking for. He made her feel special. I am sure she thought, as did I, "how lucky I am to have found this guy!" Oh, what a find, indeed!

Fast forward 3 months....he's whining and complaining that she works too much (oh, same reason for breaking up with me!)He's complaining about his back hurting. He's complaining that it's Monday. He's complaining that it's hot, it's chilly, it's not raining, it's raining, there's too much work, there's not enough work, blah, blah, blah.

AND (drum roll, please) NOW, his car is broken and he has no money to fix it.....and she's beginning to back off. His angry, negative side is showing and it's not attractive. In additional to his constant complaining (which was absent during the first few weeks) he now has an excuse not to take her anywhere, buy her anything or make any contribution. The mask is cracking and the real Wanna B is showing.

Well, she's had it with the constant complaining and now realizes this 53 year old "man" has not a pot to pee in and is looking to mooch off of her. She's tired of driving him to work and to his gigs. Suddenly there are no comments on her FB about him. The party is ending and if she is smart (smarter than I was, at least) she will dump his ass fast, lick her wounds, move on and not look back.

The only down side to this predictable ending, is he will come looking for me. His number and email are already blocked. If he does get through by any devious means, I will tell him to "GO FUCK HIMSELF"..or IGNORE him...whatever suits my mood.

Anyway, the purpose of this rant is to assure anyone who is pulling out her hair and crying over the OW or NGF...it is ALWAYS just a matter of time before she joins the ranks of the Narc's victims.

Sometimes it is sooner than later and sometimes it can be years before the new relationship implodes. But whatever you experienced with him, believe me, she is also experiencing-the good and yes, the BAD. She is as confused as you were, wondering where that great guy went and waiting for "the great guy" to "return".

She is rationalizing and excusing the behaviors. She is walking on eggshells as not to infuriate him. She allows her boundaries to be weakened in order to keep things calm. She puts her needs on the back burner in order to keep him from leaving.She compromises her values for his attention. She plays into the drama in order to stay in the game. She replays conversations in her head to see what she said to make him angry. She chooses her words carefully as to not provoke an argument. She tries ignoring what is in front of her. She tries confronting the situation and suffers the consequences. She crys. She blames herself. She loses herself. She feels she is losing her mind. She is exhausted. And finally, she is DONE.

When the time comes, please extend a warm welcome to Wanna B's (x)NGF. It's only a matter of time. It ALWAYS is.

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