Friends of the friendless...

The xN only had a couple of 'friends' from youth. One was also a philanderer (multiple infidelities more than one woman at a time & married throughout), the other wasn't in contact as much and rarely visited any more due to the xNs atrocious behaviour in close quarters over the last couple of years. The xN also had a couple of former work colleagues that he heard from/met once per year approx who boosted his ego needs. No one else as far as I'm aware as he's incapable of doing the work that friendship requires. He thinks himself superior to most people and his beavhiour, pompous/arrogant/terrible sense of humour/never reciprocating invites puts people off in general. Ns don't have friends that would require a close bond and they can't do intimacy/care/empathy - they just want supply. For my xN the philander friend upheld his belief system completely, the other friend allowed the xN to feel superior - they had the same major pursuit and the xN was more accomplished.The friend was also still married/bringing up children so the xN could believe his friend was jealous of him all the time and feel superior some more. The Role of the Narcissist's Friends: Sam Vaknin http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w95sXZRcef0

We had each other..who needed anyone else? bad idea. I kept in contact with friends that have been my lifeline coming out of this. He has aquaintances..people that at some time had something to offer him. Thats the only kind he really ever had...oh except women friends who adore him, he loves those kinds

No one wants to be friends with an asshole! Hunter

in life, always keep and hold onto your friends, even if a man is a big part of your life. I am so grateful I was and am in contact with the handful of friends i know who love and care for me................even when I was with the narc, no man should consume your whole life...........

My N had friends but they were all junkies and alcoholics like him. Everyone in their life is a means to an end. It can be a small as keeping someone around for free booze or a ride to hanging around an accomplished individual to make themselves look better. They can't be friends, thus they don't have them. They only use people and when their nice or pretending to be your friend it's only because they see something in you to exploit or use to their advantage. They charm everyone in the beginning but when you get close enough, you begin to see the lies and manipulation. Their 'friend' always see the signs before we do because they aren't blinded by love. If narc has friends who know his true self bd behavior I'd really steer clear because those friends are probably disordered as well and work on narcs team as allies. No one wants to hang around someone who lies cheats steals uses drugs and abuses. Remember birds of a feather.....

Mine had NO friends. None. Great looking, great job, at first glance a great guy. But spend some time and you quickly realize the ARROGANCE. People didn't like him. Always told crazy stories to make himself look better. People see through that! Always has a woman to screw but NO friends. I see that now. His target at the time consumes all of his time. He is so busy sucking the life out of her because he has no self-love. He is hollow and empty. You don't see it when you are IN IT and when you are living it. You see it later...looking back. Thank God you are out. Learn to love yourself.....something he cannot do.