freefromjail's story

New here and feeling relief somewhat

Hi, I thought I would give you a brief synopsis of what brought me here. It has been 3 years, almost 4 that I have been dealing with what I know now is a Narc. I met him back in 2008 while working nights, he would come in to my place of employment quite often and even asked one of my coworkers about me. At first I didn't give it a second thought until I actually heard he had interest. (bad on my part bc I was still currently married, going through rough times knowing I would leave one day after I was done with Nursing School) I chose freefromjail as my name because Narc is a cop in my old town.
He would come in three times a night the nights we both worked but never brought his interest up, just walked around.... browsing, bored I guess. Fast forward a few months, we became friends on fb and through that began texting. He was so charming, showed attention, was witty as all hell. It was attention and charm I was not getting. The exact opposite, my marriage was emotionally torturous and my mind was abused beyond belief. Narc was my escape and we had ALOT in common or so it seemed. Few months later we began to hang out, one thing led to another and here I am ---hopefully free from my imprisoned emotions and mind. I stumbled upon this site by googling a question wondering if he would ever miss me or something like that. I've read your stories for the past few days and there are many similarities between your all and mine story. I hope that I can finally see this as a saving grace. The rest of my story will come out in bits and pieces as I post I guess. I could write a book on the crap that I put up with. At least at this point I do know that it was not me that did anything wrong when it came to wanting commitment, being too nice or having something seriously wrong with me because he would never get too close and if he did, he'd yank that right back and punish me. I think I'm on the right path... Nice to meet you all. I look forward to helping and healing.