freak out ! Can anyone see if we have looked at them on FB?

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#1 Jul 5 - 4PM
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freak out ! Can anyone see if we have looked at them on FB?

I "checked" her site regularly. her as in OW. I would be so so mortified if she knew I was checking. there is no way for her to find this out, right? or her business website?

Jul 5 - 10PM
rosedewittbukater
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FB trackers

I am a little fuzzy on this myself. I found this link that does support what kitten is saying. http://www.makeuseof.com/tag/truth-stalker-tracker-facebook/ However some other threads here have mentioned seeming to know when their N's were visiting their pages (and viewing photos, etc.) So I guess that is what confuses me. Also I got unfriended within seconds after viewing xN's page. I guess that could have just been coincidence, but it made me think she might have been tracking. Peace, Rose
Jul 6 - 8AM (Reply to #10)
Smitten Kitten (not verified)
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Knowing their Habits

Initially after the big D&D, even though I was no longer on my exN's friends list, I kept my page open to friends of friends because I wanted him to be reminded of me. I didn't want him to just forget me like I never existed. I wanted him to see my interaction with mutual friends and pictures to think he might someday regret what he gave up. I only "knew" that he was looking at my page because he was so predictable and I knew his habits. I had no proof of when he did it or how many times, but I "knew" he wanted to know what I was doing. He also did this with the previous OW who is still on his friends list. He would occasionally look at her page and tell me what she was doing. As if I gave a f**k! At that point in time, I didn't know he was an N either, and I wanted him to be aware of how much he hurt me and feel some sort of remorse. But now that I know he's an N, that was just Nirvana for him and he doesn't feel remorse. I unknowingly gave him a lot of supply in the initial days following the D&D, but I didn't know. When we were still "together" he de-friended me more than once after arguments that HE caused. I loved being punished for his bad behavior! At one point, I was off his friends list for about 2 months but we still talked on the phone everyday and I even visited his town for a month, at which point I saw him everyday and I spent the Holidays with him. I had sent him friend requests but he wouldn't accept them, telling me we got along better off of FB, because we were always arguing about it. But that's because of his interaction with other women on there. I told him it wasn't FB, it was HIM. That's like blaming the telephone for causing arguments when you're saying something crappy to me in a phone conversation. He liked keeping me off there so he could interact however he wanted without me seeing what he was really up to. The irony about that, though, is that we started arguing daily about the fact that I wasn't on his friends list, so he couldn't get away from it. I told him once, I'm good enough to f**k, but not good enough to be on your friends list? During this time I kept my page open to friends of friends so he could see what I was doing, but I couldn't see his. I knew he looked because he told me. He was curious. But one day, I thought why should I be putting up with this one-way, double-standard crap? Screw him. And then I changed my privacy settings back to friends only. When he noticed, he was incredulous. You changed your privacy settings! It really bothered him he could no longer have access to my page. I said why do you care? You said we get along better without FB. Within several days of that, I logged on one morning to see he had FINALLY accepted my friend request. What an asshole.
Jul 5 - 7PM
alittledark
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Your post got me curious

I no longer have a FB page, but I use Google Analytics for several websites. I found this link which is interesting about using an image to attain stats for( the site is very slow loading) http://www.webdigi.co.uk/blog/2010/google-analytics-for-facebook-fan-pages/ ...but I would think this also lends itself to obsessive viewing as I get obsessed with looking at my stats to see who's viewing my websites...so tread carefully Not much is sacred or secret these days...you'd about have to live with no S.S. number to stay under the radar...then again I sometimes border on being a conspiracy fanatic, lol.

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Jul 6 - 8PM (Reply to #8)
strivingforhealing (not verified)
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but does this google

but does this google analytics actually tells you WHO looked at your website, or just how many and when? does it actually list email addresses of who has looked at you? i seriously can't imagine that I can't imagine she has anything like this for her small business website.
Jul 5 - 6PM
Littleone
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Don't worry there is

Don't worry there is definately no way of knowing at this stage! Stop doing it tho!
Jul 5 - 5PM
fooled no longer
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This is not true. You can see

This is not true. You can see if someone has visited yourpage. Dont do it. Block anyone you should not be going to. They can track who visits their page.
Jul 5 - 5PM
mystwoman
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Smitten Kitten is correct.

Smitten Kitten is correct. No, they cannot tell who's looked at their FB. She's also right that the post going around about being able to see who's been on your page is spam. You're safe from the OW's view. Hugs.

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Jul 5 - 5PM
Smitten Kitten (not verified)
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No. There is absolutely no

No. There is absolutely no way to know who's looking at your page. There is a spam application that has circulated on FB before that says something to the effect of, "See Who's Been Looking at Your Profile" or something similar. When you click on the link, it takes you to a bogus link, and then it re-sends it to all the people on your friends list.
Jul 5 - 6PM (Reply to #2)
strivingforhealing (not verified)
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so "fooled no longer' is incorrect???

This is what i thought. that that was a bogus link. but I have been in torment the last 2 hours with this thought and my therapist could not help me- she did not know. I HATE this obsession. hate it. hate it. it hurts my mind so much. I want to maintain as much dignity as possible and could not bear to think of her knowing this. I have not looked in over a week and plan to be very strong on this. I feel better for completely disppearing from their world.
Jul 5 - 6PM (Reply to #3)
Smitten Kitten (not verified)
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I am correct. You can NOT see

I am correct. You can NOT see who's looking at your profile. There have been several versions of that bogus link that have circulated at various times and a lot of people clicked on it because they wanted to see!