First dates after 10 months

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#1 May 20 - 3AM
Mariline
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First dates after 10 months

Hi girls. I had a date. Yes, after 10 months from the unbelievable pain felt with the Narc, I had a date.

It was wonderful and I am scared.

I am overreacting and I realize it. He is trying to be what every normal man would be- quiet, rational- but I realize I am not ready to accept he SLIGHTEST lack of respect. I found he was being a little too cold for my tastes, and I did not act as I was used to-I simply texted him telling I am too old to waste my time and energies, so if he was not really intersted he could go. I was not ready to what happened next. I was used to be insulted and devalued every time I opened my mouth to defend myself, while this man was hurt and stayed at the phone until 3 o'clock to explain me he was really intersted and what his character was, and he has showered me with texts and attention after. I had never really stood up for myself before. When I texted him I was really thinking: no BS again. NO WAY! I meant it. It worked. I cannot believe that I have finally learnt-or re-learnt-to stand for myself.

But I am scared. Please repeat me THE signs. Repeat me what I should do. I do not want to make mistakes again. I need it, I need it now.

May 20 - 5AM
Barbara (not verified)
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Mariline - signs

10 months may not be a long enough time for you. Here you go on the 'signs' http://howtotellifaguyisajerk.blogspot.com/2007/04/signs-of-abusive-man-and-cycle-of.html http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/manipulator/redflaglist.shtml http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/manipulator/eighteasyways.shtml Remember - PREDATORS DO HUNT 'THE WOUNDED' ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/