First dates after 10 months
First dates after 10 months
Hi girls. I had a date. Yes, after 10 months from the unbelievable pain felt with the Narc, I had a date.
It was wonderful and I am scared.
I am overreacting and I realize it. He is trying to be what every normal man would be- quiet, rational- but I realize I am not ready to accept he SLIGHTEST lack of respect. I found he was being a little too cold for my tastes, and I did not act as I was used to-I simply texted him telling I am too old to waste my time and energies, so if he was not really intersted he could go. I was not ready to what happened next. I was used to be insulted and devalued every time I opened my mouth to defend myself, while this man was hurt and stayed at the phone until 3 o'clock to explain me he was really intersted and what his character was, and he has showered me with texts and attention after. I had never really stood up for myself before. When I texted him I was really thinking: no BS again. NO WAY! I meant it. It worked. I cannot believe that I have finally learnt-or re-learnt-to stand for myself.
But I am scared. Please repeat me THE signs. Repeat me what I should do. I do not want to make mistakes again. I need it, I need it now.
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