Fear and Anxiety has returned
Fear and Anxiety has returned
I could really use some advice tonight. The fear and anxiety that I felt in the first few months post break up have returned and I'm struggling to understand why. I was doing so well, thought I was healing and now I'm finding myself at that painful post break up phase again.
It has been 10 months since I broke up with the ex narc. We dated for a year and half and knew each other for almost 2 years. This is my first (and hopefully last) experience with someone like this so I'm still grasping for some kind of understanding.
I think what has triggered this recent anxiety is that his OW broke up with him recently and that I am having some minor success with my art career. Oddly enough he was always supportive of my art. It was one of the few good things about him. Well I just had a reception for my art show and was distracted by the thought that he was going to show up uninvited. He didn't, thank god! But I am feeling anxious again that he will contact me. Two mutual friends have told me that he is reminiscing about our relationship. I've been in NC mode for almost 6 months. He was sending me texts and emails regularly but it has mostly stopped in the past 2 months.
Are these feelings normal? I have been very happy lately and am suddenly back at that same stage post break up again. I don't know why. I feel so confused and hurt again. I even stopped therapy 4 months ago thinking - ok, I'm better and don't need help anymore. Any advice would be much appreciated. I'm in a lot of pain right now.
Thank you
its a cycle it comes I goes
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