"Family Happiness"
"Family Happiness"
Early on, the ex-Psych professor spoke of this as one of his favorite stories by Leo Tolstoy. Masha is dissatisfied with her marriage; she flirts with the idea of having an affair. In the end, her husband (some say he "acts like a father and a teacher") lectures Masha on what she wants. He tells her let her go off alone to find what she REALLY wants. He basically tells her to give up her sexual desires/needs, saying he put up with her "charming nonsense." (Somehow Masha and her husband have children) It's very much Madonna/whore. The husband in the story put up with his wife's "charming nonsense" in order to make babies--but now she's supposed to sublimate her sexual desires as a wife and mother. In "Kreutzer Sonata", controversial at the time because its misogynistic leading character who kills his wife is a repressed homosexual, the ex-P agreed with its epilogue where Tolstoy describes sex as "violence and inequality" and that spouses are to live together as siblings. The ex-P, like other cerebral Narcs, saw sex as common and dirty. The ex-P even agreed with Tolstoy's "A Confession" in which Tolstoy said he had a "physically shameful" attraction to other men, and saw women as purely spiritual. (Despite seeing women as "purely spiritual", Tolstoy had no problems with using sex as a weapon with his wife)
A husband telling his wife what her needs and desires are, without taking into account HER feelings, emotions, needs... NOT the recipe for family happiness.
"Family Happiness" is about happiness from a Narc's perspective... it's NOT real happiness (TM)....
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