FAKE accomplishments

Mine lied about his accomplishments in the military. Saying he did so many great acts, served here, served there, had an injury, all these awards, medals, etc. Guess what??? He was outed after he accepted an award for these "accomplishments." He never did any of that, instead he was a poor excuse for a soldier according to those who knew him and was discharged for plain stupidity. For the longest time I couldn't believe it because he told these lies with such ease, he had no signs of lying in him! Makes me sick. Apparently he's been a liar for a long long time according to his former classmates...saying that he would lie about what he did over the weekend, things he could do, how awesome he is. Anytime someone would say they did something, he'd jump in with an even better story of how he did the same. I thought that these people were just hating on him, but come one when someone makes a group about the guy, there's gotta be some truth to it. Not to mention an official article -__-

You know, your post illustrates the much bigger concept behind most of the narc's problems, and that is, deep, deep, deep insecurity. In addition, this lying can and often is about something dangerous such as breaking the law or contracting HIV, and can put any of us in danger ourselves by association. The need to lie and exaggerate about how they are and what they've done is absolutely central to their existence. And Oh my...I just had to comment on this post because every N I ever dated either straight-out lied about their accomplishments or GROSSLY exaggerated them. That is all part of the sickness and really, really goes along with the territory. Some were better liars than others. My latest x N that brought me here walks around saying he has a degree in x but not only does not have a degree, he barely finished HS let alone a semester of college. Then I found out all kinds of lies that were actually extremely serious in nature and could have really put me in harms way. We really need to be careful for our own lives just because of this lying. They just don't care about their own recklessness and its consequences, so why would they care about how their recklessness may affect US?

Had to log on to comment on you post. ExPDman #2 told me he had been in the Royal Green Jackets and sent to Afghanistan, told me he was a champion swimmer, told me he had 'A' levels in maths and English and loved doing difficult crosswords and puzzles. Told me he had read many books, told me he had been stabbed, (I never did find that stab scar..lol) oh the list goes on and I found out that every one was a lie. In fact he is the complete opposite of all these things....now I'm over him it really makes me laugh but it's quite sad really.

The ex-Psych prof claimed he was writing a book about Augustine/Wittgenstein, that it would take a decade for him to write (it would've been published in 2006)... when I told my friends, he went around telling my classmates I was crazy. He said he was only THINKING of writing a book, that he wasn't writing a book. It took 7 years for him to get his master's degree at University of Virginia;not sure why it took him so long (it took my sister only a year) My morbidly obese former Narc coworker claimed he was a chef... he wasn't. He claimed he had all these great accomplishments as a chef... when in fact he was doing drugs at a local bakery&a winery restaurant, and dealing meth. He claimed he lost his teeth due to eating tons of candy... it was meth abuse that caused him to lose all his teeth before the age of 40. He blamed his obese mother&his obese sister for his own obesity. He'd brag about losing weight (when it was obvious he hadn't) and bragged he had lost so much weight he could get into various sexual positions with his wife. He looks about 400 pounds.

He got fired, of course. It wasnt his fault. (haha) The past three years together he has quoted dr hare's checklist, talked about other people being fake, when the mask falls off, glib and superficial charm. I had no idea who dr hare was at that time, and I didnt know what any of the stuff he was preaching at me meant, either. I thought he was brilliant and very, very smart. The we started dating, The living together. 3 years later, I find out he has a Business Degree. Not even a health care professional. A fucking business degree. Ane he was dispensing his warped advice to people who were depending on him. Depending on him for advice that could possible save them from addiction, and even worse, death. I asked him how he knew all this stuff? How did you learn ALL this? How do you know about the mask falling off, etc. I said..." so how do you know all this????I know you didnt have to learn this for your BUSINESS degree." I said "Its because you have been diagnosed as a psychopath yourself!" He smiled at me and said "not officially." Poof! Be Gone.