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The ex narc v the new bpd

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#1 Dec 21 - 2AM
Sea
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The ex narc v the new bpd

I thot i was recovering. The crazy chasing by the new bpd guy actually brings out the pain of the discard by the ex narc. How can the ex narc who used to "love" me as much as the new bpd guy just leave me like this? Calls me ugly on his fb and flaunting new gf all over. I know he is disordered and never loved me. I accept that. But with this new bpd guy chasing, the wound of the narc leaving me and not looking back anymore is being ripped open again. The narc didnt care even that i am relocating soon. Zero everything, heartless and souless.

I really have accepted all that the narc is/is not. He's block everywhere as well, a minion did a print screen from his fb and send me. No response from me. I need a few days to recover. Hope i will escape the bpd guy at the airport. No interest to see him or worse gets into any struggle drama that i gota call the airport security.

Sumiko

Dec 22 - 7AM
Goldie
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Sumiko

Sorry for your pain hon, seeing that facebook page must have been heartbreaking for you. Also a big wakeup call for you though, that he is NOT who you thought he was. No one in their right mind would post such a thing. We all need to continue to work on the fact that they were not who we thought they were. You will get there. They do not ever change and they never become who and what we thought they were. I just posted on here my latest Holiday Narc Attack and you can clearly see that it is similar to what happened to you. Basically he is trying to tell me that he thinks being with a stripper is better than me. Obviously I do not buy this nonsense, yet it is the same thing as your narc making the comments on facebook, this is what they do. They try to hurt you and as difficult as it is, you need to find a way to pick yourself up and remind yourself 100 times a day for now that this is NOT NOT NOT a reflection on you and your worthiness; this is a reflection on him and his lack of worthiness. He is a bad seed, pure and simple. He is NOT good for Sumiko. God bless, my dear, you will feel better in time. As for the other guy, tell him to get lost and mean it. He has no place in your life, he sounds very dysfunctional and needy. Do not engage with this person on any level. No phone talks, lunches, emails, texts, nothing. He is a complete waste of your time and while it may feel flattering to have him hoovering about, it is basically retraumatizing you at this point. God bless, Goldie
Dec 22 - 9AM (Reply to #2)
Sea
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Dear Goldie As always, thanks

Dear Goldie As always, thanks for everything. I read about your ex narc's hoover. That was below the belt really. He just wanted attention and had zero concerns for your feelings. No one with a heart and a logical mind would do such a thing, normal people wont even have such weird thots not to mention acting it out! You are strong and a great inspiration for all of us. I will be going home tomorrow and the bpd guy will be there waiting. Its ok, i have decided to talk to him. Tell him he is barking up the wrong tree - period. I did not accept him not because i cant get over ex narc. Its because i do not love him. Big difference from whaf he always assumed. I think he will backoff. I am looking forward to a quiet x'mas with my siblings and nephews & nieces. No party planned. I am not in the mood and i dont have a date to take along as well. Ex narcky is likely to stay away enjoying his new gf n all other ow. This year x'mas is different because i dont have to wait around for ex narc to toss me some crumbs like a last minute date with me. He abandoned me the last 2 x'mas cos his good friend came to Asia and he hang around with him and his ex gf! A pathetic woman who always hang around the narc. Ex narc used her to triangulate me alot. The biggest win is no need to cater to his nonsense this year.