Every Member Would Benefit from Reading this Article
Every Member Would Benefit from Reading this Article
How and Why a Psychopath Pushes Your Buttons...
by: Claudia Moscovici
http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2011/01/24/how-and-why-a-psych...
I understand this all takes time...however, if you can really understand and accept what is being reiterated over and over again, what this particular author is saying and what some of you already know cognitively...I really think more moments of clarity will ensue.
I have always held, and have stated and in doing my reading today over and over again, have happened upon many bloggers, therapists, whomever that deal with this issue repeat over and over...that YES it will take time to heal -but the key moment the pivotal moment in our recovery is when we can accept the PATHOLOGY and what HE IS...until then one is stuck in the circular motion.
I believe that even within the circular motion we have good and bad days - but the HOOVERS...those of us who have been at it a while...and I note there must be a double moon or something out there and based upon certain signs I think I am due for a hoover...
BUT the hoover won't shake me because I own, know and have accepted who he is. I don't hate him...but it is what it is...
My sisters and brothers...you can get there. It takes a little knocking of your own behinds to get in line.
Please read this article and really really own it. With this particular issue, no one is re-inventing the wheel, there are no "exceptions" these disordered individuals follow a very predictable script...we should not be surprised, shocked or react as we know already what they are going to do...and why they're doing it.
SOI - I am glad you have more strength today...Sara..., someone else today had an issue...and you know we may very well have a number of hoovers...BUT we can be prepared, we can make the best efforts to shut them down...lock them out...So please...if you want to heal..get serious about it and really discipline yourself and do your best to keep NC. It really is what will release you...yes, it hurts, yes it's hard but if you allow it...it will torment you for as long as you do.
We have all cheated, fallen off the wagon...this is not a shame lecture...this is a plea to get serious about it. AND even if you are weak and still working on it...really try to OWN this article so at least you can look at the hoover for what it is and not wonder...or ask questions, or engage in magical thinking...YOU WILL KNOW the answer without second guessing.
Hugs!
Michele
If you read my position...
Thank you!
Do not agree with the emphasis on NC
I have to agree on this
jen jen
Patiencegoal
response to your comment about NC
Patience...question...
I agree but
Ifnallygotit...