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#1 Jul 13 - 1PM
Scoop
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dumped my new guy

I have been kind of seeing a man for a little while although we havnt slept toghter we have kind of kissed , well new guy is a good friend of narc and i have tryed to tell him that narc is an abusive , violent dissordered man he really doesnt believe me. Over the last weekend he has been tying to get me to meet with my narc while new guy was there and i have been saying no , new guys reads this that i am still in love with narc (im not i hate the narc but its impossible to explane no contact to someone who hasnt been where we have ) ... Last night was the final straw , he invited me for drinks and we where in the pub and new guy started to text my narc inviting him for a drink with us !I told him i didnt want him to come and he said that he is comming and i can go or stay it was up to me (nice eh )... Then new guy who took my reaction as that i was still in love with narc so broke it off with me saying he just wants to be friend .
To be honest with you guys i have just felt really flat today , i dont want to be this guy friend , im glad i didnt sleep with him , but his insesertivity was too much to take .. i guess he is not wanting to be my rebound guy so he is preserving hiis feeling , but i was begining to like him and have feelings for him ... it sucks ...ok update ... he has just text me saying "i bet i have had a werst day than you .. how are you ?".....what does that mean ?should i replie ... oh bollocks...... MEN!!!!!!!!!. oh now he text me saying "i really do like you but you know we are not really ment to be " .... now heres the question ... why do men feel the need to dump you twise eh ?was last night not enough ?..nooo lets just text her and dump her again today too ... holy fuck , what a twat ...

Jul 13 - 5PM
Lisa E. Scott
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Scoop

Sblaze makes a great point: 'birds of a feather, flock together' WTF is wrong with this guy?! Run, run like hell. I'm sorry, but I see absolutely no reason why he would want your ex to join the two of you for drinks. That's just crazy. He's crazy. Good riddance! Sorry you had to deal with such drama though. I don't know why they have to put us through the ringer like that. It's exhausting. I'm sorry that happened. You definitely didn't need that added to your plate. I guess the final thing to remember is at least he showed his true colors before you got too intimate with him. xoxo
Jul 13 - 3PM
Steph
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wow. this guy is weird! I'd

wow. this guy is weird! I'd stay away. He clearly doesn't respect your boundaries - trying to coax you into meeting with your xN. and he doesn't believe you when you tell him the truth of your xN. Nope. He's no good. I hope you are rid of him:)
Jul 13 - 3PM
Scoop
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I havnt text him back , he

I havnt text him back , he hes just text asking if we where still on for tomorrow (i am looking at boats to buy and i had a second viewing tomorrow which he was comming along to) Whats he playing at ?.... my gut feeling is this guy is yet another narc , why do they make a bee line for me .x
Jul 13 - 2PM
Used
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scoop

this guy is not your friend how can 2people be out as a couple and man is texting your ex,scoop, i dont want to alarm you but i dont like the sound of this at all and i believe the narc has a hand in this somewhere, dont answer any texts from this dick head, pleasex
Jul 13 - 2PM (Reply to #4)
Used
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scoop

its nothing to do with being your rebound guy, ive read a lot of your posts and think you a proper fighter, but dont you relize this mans actions are a narcs actions, you go out with him you even kiss, you get to like him and he drops you who and what does that sound like,b,,,ards.
Jul 13 - 2PM
Amy
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That was particularly rude!

That was particularly rude! I would not recommend dating a friend of the N anyway. It keeps you in too close of contact. This is a blessing in disguise!
Jul 13 - 3PM (Reply to #2)
SBlaze86
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Re: new guy

Yeah, one saying that became true for me is that 'birds of a feather, flock together'... What kind of man truly interested in you feels the need to invite your ex whether he's friends with him or not, it just seems like suspect behavior. It's probably not only a good idea to continue NC with your ex but this guy also!