Down playing our feelings
Down playing our feelings
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One of the narcs favorite form of abuse is the insidious way he dismisses or belittles our feelings . In a normal relationship youre partner should listern to concerns and feelings of their loved one , in fact the sharing of feelings are the main point of a relationship , it is this that makes intimacy and what is not too much to expect is a loving partner empathizing with us .
My weasle narc set responces to me talking about my feelings would be
"youre too sensertive
"you shouldnt feel that way "
"youre always complaning "
"stop being silly"
"you have it wrong"
"you just think everyone hates you "
"you hate everyone"
"im not listerning anymore "
"what do you expect me to do about it "
And the most degrading of all was when his friend made a pass at me and i told the narc "he was just being friendly , you just think everyman fancys you "
When you feel someone in this world has wronged you and you feel upset it is revictimization and abuse to not have youre feelings listern too and taken seriously . When you live with this kind of abuse the message it sends you is youre feelings are not important and there for you are not important.Thats why this kind of abuse is so insidious , it goes under the radar and is very difficult to put youre finger on or to point the finger at the abuser .
We all have a right to be validated .
Big Love Scoop xx
"Managing her feelings"
Effects of Invalidation
tresor
My exN's favorite comment was
I didn't get downplayed...
OMG YES YES YES YES! I never
Puzzle
He always accused me of not taking HIM seriously
scoop! You always have the
This is really excellent.
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