Dont wanna react to his D&Ding anymore!

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#1 Aug 1 - 7PM
KrIsTaL01
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Dont wanna react to his D&Ding anymore!

Ok I havent been the best at NC, but surprisingly his D&Ding lately has made me feel too bad to answer his msgs defending myslef because I know how sadistic he can be once I answer to his insults.

This time it involved my graduation dresses. Last week he asked me everyday to send him a pic of the dress and I didnt.. cuz he never contacts me to just chat, and this time wasnt different. I knew he just wanted to criticize my dresses. So I didnt send him shit.

Anyway my graduation was on thursay and friday and by sunday morning ppl were posting on FB pics. Of coruse I was there with my pink dress, which personally I really didnt like much. As soon as a pic came up he send me msg laughing and I didnt respond. Then today another msg laughing and this afternoon he was online an said something like: "Post on a nice pic, sincerly in my opinion both dreses were horrible, Noteven ugly , but AWFUL." I didnt respond to this either.

I have two reasons no to respond to this D&Ding: 1. I would feel awful afterwards because I would engage into a insulting conversation were he will be too sadistic for me to handle. 2.I know how Ns feed from our pain and he wanted a reaction from me to feel powerful and stronger, well I didnt give it to him. But still IT hurts , a whole LOT! and I talked to some friends asking about my dresses and one of them told me it was nice and the other one told me just the lower part was kinda ugly.. anyway I cried and now I feel beated. Dont wanna react and I feel like I a getting closer to delete him from my BB pin, but still not strong enough to.

Have any of yo have had this kind of D&Ding?? how did u react??? I really dont know how to feel now...

Aug 1 - 9PM
KrIsTaL01
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One more thing

Has anyone had this kind of D&Ding before?? How did you react to it??
Aug 1 - 8PM
ruby01 (not verified)
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Well,KrIsTaL01

Was that day important because of the dress you were wearing or because you just achieved a major life goal? Congrats on your Graduation!!!! That's what was important. And he damn well knows it. The dress has nothing to do with his insults really. That would be small fry. He just wanted to bring you negative thoughts on what he knows was a very important day for you. Open your eyes wide and really see what he is trying to do to you. Stay strong, xxx Ruby
Aug 1 - 9PM (Reply to #6)
KrIsTaL01
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YESS!

I thought about that too. He uses the dress to bring me down on on this day, and he is using what he knows about me to do it the best way. He knows how insecure I am on looks and he uses it. To finally lower my achievement, since he couldnt graduate with me because he got delayed for an english course. I wanted to think he was shallow and hollow, he still is , but there is a deep significant goal he wasnt to achive behind the dress. I still feel no will to answer him, altough I really dont know If I should just let him know I know what he is doing and that its not working for me.. but still that would open the door for more D&Ding... Thank you Ruby
Aug 1 - 8PM
happysoon
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you did a great thing by not

you did a great thing by not responding to him...that shows lots of strength! what an ass he is, seriously
Aug 1 - 7PM
Littleone
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What a royal grade A

What a royal grade A prick! Firstly honey, don't take it personally- it's just a piece of clothing that you were wearing- a piece of cloth ! So what if he doesn't like the dress- it's none of his business what you wear. You could have been wearing the most stunning dress on the planet and he would still find fault with it. He's abusive. Wipe him off! You don't need a person like this in your life who picks on things like that! Who finds your weak points and presses with all their might. Revolting creature he is. You deserve better. No response to this- he is just trying to antagonize you and make you feel bad. What a loser for obsessing over what YOU are wearing- is he a designer or fashion expert? Maybe a closet cross dresser? What a dick! Lift your head up proudly girl. Dont let it get to you if you can- HE is the one obsessing over WOMENS CLOTHING. Enough said! Hugs to you xox
Aug 1 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
KrIsTaL01
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True

So shallow ans hollow he is, he cant find anything else to D&Ding me.And I think teh best reaction is no reaction. Thank you for your words, really help me a lot andits soo true what you said a guy obsessing over women's clothin .. wow ho sad and pathetic creature he is.. dear god I really dont know how I put up with his crap for so long Thank again :) xoxoxo
Aug 2 - 12AM (Reply to #3)
Littleone
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Your most welcome :) And we

Your most welcome :) And we have all put up with this kind of crap - your not alone there! It's only when you get out and go NC that the fog clears and we see them for what they truly are- pathetic. Congrats on your graduation. Much more important than a dress!! Be proud. Leave cross dresser boy to his own obsession :) Xox