Does your narc has many FB friends?

I think FB can be a narc heaven. The narc relationship I was involved in started on FB. I knew him on a superficial level before, then he became my FB friend and that's when the trouble started! He seemed to be on it all the time and had about 300 friends. Although most weren't real friends and he seemed to send friend requests to people he'd only met once! He was a cyberpath and I saw him in action on there flattering loads of attractive women, love bombing them! I unfriended him about a year ago but wish I'd blocked him as I've seen lots of comments from him on mutual friends walls. However it seems petty to now block a year later. FB has been terrible for me as I am NC but when he pops up on there it keeps him in my life which I don't want. Also I have FB peeked in the past, and found myself obsessed with it for a while. Also narcs can be whoever they like on there and just show their good sides or they can show off doing cool stuff and appear popular when in reality they're a sad grey haired perverted old man who lives in a shithole!!! Be very careful who your friend on FB, it can cause major damage.

The ex-Psych prof hardly has an internet presence (it's the opposite with his father) FB would make him paranoid. He was scared about people laughing at him behind his back, and he was extremely "private." Very secretive. Once, I read an essay of his online, for free, about "War and Peace",and he threw a total hissy fit. Never mind that it was PUBLIC and I didn't have to pay to read it. He claimed I had intruded his "privacy"(?) I don't know about you, but I don't think an essay on "War and Peace" is as private as say, a dating site. It was penned while he was in graduate school;it's not like it was some sordid discussion of his private life. It wasn't like the sexually explicit diaries of his idol, Leo Tolstoy. The ex-P has ZERO FB friends, and he's not on FB. He was scared at the thought of "being all over the internet."

Mine has hundreds - closing in on 500. And when I was with him, he was on FB every single day, several times a day. Only he rarely posts on his own wall (and deletes his own posts after awhile), he comments on other people's posts infrequently, he deletes everyone else's posts on his wall except for their birthday wishes to him, and he untags himself in pretty much all photos he's tagged in.

Oh yes. Last Aug I found 100's and 100's emails and messages spanning over 3 years between him and half a dozen other women. I use his laptop to listen to seminars on line as the sound chip in my computer needs replacing. I logged on and up came his e mail!! He hadn't logged out(a gift from God) I was able to get out of the laptop without logging out of his e mails,so I spent my Saturday nights reading his little soap opera while he was out of town racing. His FB conversations were all forwarded to his e mail! I'd get a cup of tea and sit down to read. I took some old calenders and was able to gauge from the content and dates WHEN he was hooking up. I wrote it all out on the calenders so it was right there before my eyes in black and white. I was able cross reference with his FB and mine every move he'd made and where I was..and most important the lies he told. I dug up his phone bills and marked down calls...sometimes 5 a day to one woman (not including their sexts and HER calls to him) I confirmed that he was sleeping with his X wife (remarried) and at least one other married woman whom I already had in my sites due to her hostile responses to me on his FB which weren't nearly as bad as her attacks in private..OH SHE HATES ME (we've never met) The mother of his other 16 year old son(he has 2..4 months apart)was planning to buy him a travel trailer to put by the lake so they could "be closer and work on their relationship." The one from Alaska (4 kids..married) referred to herself as his "dirty little secret" Very sexual correspondence about the 2 of them masturbating together over phone. I retrieved her home phone number and called her. I got her answering machine. I was very calm and clear as I left this message; "Hi So-and-so. This is So-and-so...so-and-so's WIFE. I just want you to know that you are not his dirty little secret. I know all about you and have for a long time. Just so you know...you are not SPECIAL...you are a SYMPTOM. So-and so is pathological liar...a narcissist..and a compulsive adulterer. And when I find out who your husband is I WILL forward these e mails to him." Then I e-mailed her on FB and I said," You stupid little girl. Do you really want to play games with a grown woman? I have contacted everyone on your FB friends list and told them about your affair." LOL! I didn't...but I'm sure it messed with her head! I gotta tell you it felt GOOD. After calling Alaska I wrote on his FB, "So-and-so is having a bad day." Funnily enough several days later she wrote on HER FB that she was "having a really bad day", I haven't heard whether her husband got the message or her. It felt so good I called several others leaving messages introducing myself and leaving messages specific to their contact with my NARC. Many of them are now deleted from his FB friends list :D I'm proud of myself. Once I finished reading the messages. I've never gone back to peek. It's been since August and I REALLY don't care. I think it's like the story of the monkey who won't let go of one branch until it has a firm grip on another. It'll be so much easier to get him to let go of me if he has a firm grip on someone else. Thank God for FB. I KNEWWWWWW he was messing around I could feel it !! I knew who too and when ever I asked him he told me I was CRAZY. Technology was able to confirm it! He still doesn't know HOW I know. ;D

You need to block him from your FB to stay NC, FB is still contact and we know what contact equals................PAIN!

I assume so....but I was never part of his FB circle (purposefully).

Neither one of my narcs had any interest in facebook. They were both extremely private men. BUT, I will say, narc #2, had a Match.com account so that has to count for something. Neither one of them had many friends, just one each actually. Having friends wasn't important to them. My ex-husband hung out with my friends and his one. My ex narc had one friend and I have a funny feeling that friend didn't care too much for him to begin with. Just felt sorry for him, when every one else would just walk away from him because they had had enough of him.

Before i blocked him he had 30, but one is HIDDEN...LOL, I didnt even know you could hide one friend..

And, would not friend me!! Said if it was an issue he would go off FB. He didn't have a pic and went through his whole friends list with me...he told me to friend him when we were on my computer going through his list, so I did. Well 2 weeks later he never friended me back?? Huh, here I was "in a relationship" on my FB with a man that wouldn't friend me!! He didn't want me knowing anything about these OW I guess. He only had 25 friends, his kids, sisters, a few high school friends and about 5 girls he said he "dated". I hate FB and think its the worst thing for relationships, people use it for the wrong things.