Does anyone feel that posting keeps you tied to the fake relationship with EX N?
Does anyone feel that posting keeps you tied to the fake relationship with EX N?
Sometimes I feel like EX N does not care about me, never did, and I am posting and ruminating about an imaginary ex love of my life! I feel that by talking about him I am trying to almost hold on to the love I felt for him instead of accepting that he never really loved me. Honestly, parts of me really enjoy sharing the little things that meant alot to me about him as well as the things that hurt me alot.
Sometimes it feels weird though knowing he let go of ten years so easily and moved on quickly, probably by last Sept. even though he pretended to move on in Dec. I think he pretended to not have a new instant GF because he knows that is uncool and wanted to look normal like it took 6 months to move on. Actually I think he let go of me in a month after his move and just never told me.
Sometimes i feel silly for recalling all the intimate stuff, knowing that he was never even really committed to our relationship and ran off to the hills...I do fear never hearing form him again even though I know it was unhealthy love. I fear that I never mattered to him though deep down I think I did. When I broke contact and called after 4 months he sounded like the saddest most remorseful person on earth. He sounded like a lost boy who ran off and is sorry he hurt me. I never heard from him again but it was clear he does not hate me and is sad he treated me bad...
I honestly post hear sometimes because he won't speak to me and I have so many feelings that have no outlet. But I hope I do not keep posting about him forever because then it would be like a sick way of holding on to what is done and over. I want to heal and not be pathetically hanging on the past...I have some exciting new goals for the future but still feel lonely setting out on accomplishing them alone...
Ifinallygotit
Ifinallygotit...
Well said michele! I think
Yes, I feel the same way at