Just think it through past sending the birthday wish. Then what. If he doesn't respond at all, what would you do then? How would that make you feel. And if he does respond, what do you want to hear from him? That he loves you? That he is better? That he is miserable without you?
It is a no win for you to contact him. It will bring more pain and suffering. Period.
Instead of doing something "nice" for him, do something nice for you. Something that will make you happy. Burn an effigy of him, have a separation ceremony, burn his picture, or write a journal entry on how far you have come this past year. Go to the bookstore and buy a new read.
Btw, delete his number, that is doing something nice for you!!! And that will help you not text him, if the desire doesn't go away. Sounds like you have a haunting happening, so pray to God to remove the obsession.
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May the blue bird of happiness continue to shit all over them! I wouldn't wish him Happy Birthday ever again! That would just open the door for them again! And mine is bolted shut!
Thankyou ladies for all the reminders, keep it coming, positive or negative.
Maybe it is my too 'forgetful', friendly and easy going character, if not for a N case, I would have treat the situation much easlier.
I think I need some ideas, assurance and reminders.
It's important, cos it gives various insight, prevent me and many others from doing wrong things.
he is not a *NORMAL FRIEND*...he is your ex....
you say you have SOMEWHAT RECOVERED, then you havent recovered, i don't understand why you would even want to wish a HAPPY BIRTHDAY......to the person who bought you to this board....i have never sms a simple text to exn and never will...not cos i have got any feeling for him, but simply b/c he is out of my life...so why would i ?
No don't do it! My exN birthday was last weekend, I thought about it and decided if I did it then he would know that I was thinking about him and it would give him the attention that he wanted. He is not worth it!
Or is it too risky for the victim's part, which will bring us backward?
I have to admit, no matter how strong or how far I am to recovery, i still do thought of exN, so maybe isnt that very encouraging?
I need some analysation on what would be better.
Should we wish or should we not?
Now why would I want to wish someone whose presence on this planet brings nothing but pain to others, a happy birthday? I rue the day every one of them was brought into the world.
Just think...because he was born...you are here in pieces. Yay him! LOL!
FUCK NO do not wish him a happy birthday!
Nothing if you`re lucky, back to confusion and pain if you`re not!
AquariusGal, if you contact him for ANY reason, he can only do one of two things. Either he`ll answer, or he won`t answer. If he doesn`t answer, you`ll wonder why and start to feel bad, and if he does you`ll get hooked in again and start to feel bad.
You have ABSOLUTELY nothing to gain and everything to lose.
Don`t play with fire. Stay NC. NC means no "happy birthday". Let him rot.
Love
Tigerlily
Ya, true..
But maybe cos I feel it's only a once ayear thing.
And unlike him being so childish and rageful, I still mean him well despite all those broken dream.
Unfortunately I'm like most ladies here who feel too much.
If only we have abit of N tendency easily.
If only we can be N...
I like your input thou.
I want to read more on what really should be done.
Ty.=)
how much more do you need to read about what should be done?...how much more can be said?...this is not about you not wanting to appear petty and spitful, its b/c you want to sms him...
you are not healed ,if you even have to ask advice on it...
Just think it through past
I curse the day he was born!
May the blue bird of
Thankyou ladies for all the
aquaruisgal
No don't do it! My exN
I wouldn't wish him happy
Or is it too risky for the
Now why would I want to wish
What do you gain by it?
Ya, true.. But maybe cos I
aquaruisgal