Do they discard you forever?

I have 9 kids and he is now using them as in telling me I can't take them anywhere. He found out we are on vacation wit my parents and called from Saudi to here about 100 times telling me in voicemails and my parents, DO NOT TAKE my children anywhere!! I am scared. He says he is coming here from Saudi now and I better be back and not on vacation he wants to see his kids. do narc. ever let go of their kids? none of my kids want anything to do with him. He sounds like he is going nuts more and more each day!! HELP!! Is this serious I am so sick of being scared. I feel like I should have just stayed with him!!

OK here's the unfortunate bottom line regarding how many of these guys think, but this should clear it up once you accept it as the truth- for many of these guys its about getting p*ssy by any means of dishonesty necessary. They will tell any lie under the sun to get laid. Truth and honesty do not figure into the equation whatsoever, getting laid is the end goal, case closed. Remember they have no conscience and no remorse for the hurt they cause in telling lies in order to get laid. And if you have had sex with them in the past, you are forever on their 'hit list'. Finding willing p*ssy is a tough task, so they return to the tried and true sources as often as possible. When one well runs dry, they move on to the next trusted well. This will continue until you are more trouble than you're worth with questioning the lies, and/or until they find a more gullible person who is willing to have sex with them and isn't as bothersome with the questioning of the lies. Hope that helps in understanding it all. This wisdom is applicable to many men but not all men. Normal men (non-personality disordered) with good character, integrity and honest moral standards do not operate this way.

Only if you're lucky!!! :) Mine's pattern is to get caught cheating so that his partner dumps him, then wait about 2 years to recontact them and " apologize and hash things out". If they buy into his BS, they go permanently on the back burner as members of the emergency supply harem. If not, and I only know of 1 who didn't, he avoids them like the plague.

Take that however you want to :). But, seriously, I hope I am one of the ones that never get contacted, ever again. I dumped him SO many times and he kept coming back and coming back. No matter how many times I pushed him away, told him I never wanted to see him or talk with him again, treated him with cold indifference...he came back. I can have personal NC but not business NC at the moment so he tries to get to me through work and other people (who are still putting up with his sh*t and follow him around like puppy dogs...yuck). In my head and heart I am DONE with him, I'm in therapy, I have meds for anxiety attacks (such as when he tries to contact)...I am on the road to recovery! However, I consider anyone very, very lucky if their xN/P leaves forever. Triggers and attempts at contact are h*ll.

-----mine is a recycler. he'll try to recycle old supply for 30 years ago; but some of them devalue and discard and never look back. it's been my personal experience that Narcs are harder to get rid of than a staph infection, just when you think it's cured, it comes back with a vengeance. My blog

Narcs are like boom-a-rangs.It's just a matter of time when they get sick of their other supplies. I've had NC for 2wks, he's so clueless as to why I haven't replied. Or he's txting a word or two to make sure I'm thinking of him! Sick *#ck!it's all a game to them. He stated "don't hate the player, hate the game". I hate both!!!

Sometimes yes, sometimes no..it depends on certain factors. As cynthia said, they can pop up at any time. After many months of NC, mine sent me a funky e-mail. Of course I ignored it. My money says he and current GF might have had a spat. But who really knows?? THEY will do whatever suits them at any given moment for God knows whatever ridiculous reason their twisted brain conjures up. But WE can continue to block their pathetic attempts to make contact again... That sad thing, is 'forgetting' people to them is like forgetting an object. Can you remember all of the objects in your life that you thought were fun at first, and then got sick of and threw out? I can't. That's how they think about people.

well lets see, mine came back after 23 years...... but for your sake PRAY he will discard you forever, he will be doing you a favor. statistically speaking ya they usually recycle old supplies and trust me THEY NEVER CHANGE, mine never changed in 23 years he just got better at conning, lying and raping