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Do Narcissists ever follow thru with anything?

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#1 Oct 7 - 9AM
Anonymous (not verified)
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Do Narcissists ever follow thru with anything?

I was wondering if N's are EVER consistent about anything? My exN never finishes what he starts. He can't seem to have consistency in anything in his life! He called really late one night wanting to talk to daughter and I texted him telling him she was asleep and he could call her on Wednesdays at 7:00. He has gone ballastic since, calling nonstop. I don't think its so much that he wants to talk to her (since he's recently gone weeks without calling) but the whole idea that I gave him a specific day and time that set him off. Probably because he doesn't have control of the situation? What do you think is fair time for him to pick up daughter? Court orders states 6:00 pm. but my stupid lawyer told him he had until 7:00. He texted me last nite and said, "I have until 7:00, rules are rules!" I texted him back and said, "lawyer said 7:00, judge said 6:00, umm, who do you think rules that court???" As far as phone calls go, what do you think is fair as far as how many times a week? I wish "never" but I know I can't keep her from him. He told me my daughter was going to hate me when she grows up for keeping her from him. I'm not trying to keep her from him, I just want consistency! He expects her to jump to the phone when he calls and she doesn't. He is not part of her everyday life nor does he stay in contact regularly so she treats him the way he treats her. She'll talk to him when she feels like it. I don't think I should force her to talk to him if she doesn't want to. How bout all the times he's left her crying for him and he just couldn't make time for her?

Oct 7 - 5PM
Empathy
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Simple answer = NO!!

They never do and never will. Myne cannot even pick the kids up at the agreed time or commit to anything in the future such as a parenting plan. God forbid he would have to be constrained by the needs of his children !!! That would all be too hard as his needs are all that matter. oh what wonderful pepole they are NOT!!! Jo I WILL Survive. I will thrive
Oct 7 - 1PM
Ellen
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With the father of my son

Well with the father of my son, he would phone around 7pm on a Wednesday and then pick him up on the weekends. When i emailed my ex (this one) i said never to come round the house, he turned up on my daughters birthday and just walked through the back gate. It seems you tell them not to do something and they do it more. Like my 15 month old.
Oct 7 - 1PM
NanC (not verified)
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Come on, somebody!

I need some reassurance here!!!
Oct 7 - 1PM (Reply to #2)
Barbara (not verified)
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I was wondering if N's are EVER consistent about anything?

you have asked this question in other ways before NanC can Ns be a good parent? can I co-parent with an N reassurance? with an N???? I suggest you re-read and re-read YOUR OWN POSTS on this board about his past behavior (SINCE PAST BEHAVIOR IS THE BEST PREDICTOR OF FUTUREN BEHAVIOR) and answer this one yourself. Now - WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO GET TOUGH WITH YOUR ATTORNEY & HIM AND GET A TEMPORARY PARENTING PLAN IN PLACE SO HE CAN'T CONTINUE TO TOY WITH YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER????? ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.
Oct 7 - 6PM (Reply to #3)
NanC (not verified)
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Barbara

Talking about tough love here! Lol! Same question, different wording...(I know, I know, same shit different smell) I promise I will call him first thing tomorrow morning but first...what is a temporary parenting plan? The jerk is suppose to call in 15 minutes, if he calls when I asked him to. I have my tape recorder ready to go! It's funny, our dogs were barking loudly just now and it triggered a memory in my daughter's brain. She said, "Mommy, remember when the grumpy daddy would kick my dog when he barked loud? That makes me sad. I miss my dog." She's talking about the dog he bought her and but then took it with him. He didn't care about anything else but the dog. I feel sorry for that dog, he's stuck with the abuse...
Oct 7 - 7PM (Reply to #4)
Barbara (not verified)
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NanC

I don't play where kids are involved... http://texasfamilylawblog.wordpress.com/category/temporary-orders/ http://articles.directorym.com/Temporary_Orders_in_Family_Court_Texas-r935336-Texas.html (scroll down) http://www.texaslawyers.com/unger/temporary_orders_hearing.htm http://www.childcustodycoach.com/texas/ (join the boards HERE to ask your legal questions) http://www.apffellaw.com/PracticeAreas/TemporaryOrders.asp And stop beating around the bush with therapy - get your child into therapy IMMEDIATELY!!!! and you too!!!! (this will go IN YOUR FAVOR with custody & visitation if you do this IMMEDIATELY!!!) This board is NOT a replacement for therapy. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.
Oct 7 - 7PM (Reply to #5)
NanC (not verified)
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Thank you!

Thank you for your response, Barbara. Sorry if I exhaust you with my repetitious questions.
Oct 7 - 7PM (Reply to #6)
Barbara (not verified)
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that's not it NanC

exhausting - no. frustrating - yes. I totally get the denial thing - been there, done that, t-shirts sold... what bugs me is when someone doesn't listen to what the members of this board have to share with their hard-won wisdom... then comes back and rephrases the question hoping against hope that: a. the answer will be different or b. there is some magic bullet that will save them having to do (like seeing a therapist) or stand up to someone (like your lawyer) and get what they need & deserve. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.