Do I have to uproot my entire life to be free of this addiction?
Do I have to uproot my entire life to be free of this addiction?
today- I am quite sure he came to where I walk my dog and followed me- walking his dog....then Lo and Behold- a woman came upon the trail and they walked away together. My friend said she saw them walking hand in hand. she is the new OW.
I think he was due to meet this new woman there for a walk, got there first and saw my car- and instead of waiting to walk with her- he tried to find me...then she arrived, probably wondering where the hell he was- and when she came closer to him - he made a bee line to get out of my sight.
all very sick,sick sick on his part.
I said nothing to him. I did not look at him. I did not bite.
and please do not tell me not to go to this place. there are only a few places to walk dogs and this is my favorite place and I avoid it completely until dusk when I have been very sure he does not go there....well today, he came. and I think he came because he drove by and saw my car.
I have gone out of my way to avoid places and times when I think he will be at certain locations, but still the sightings happen almost once or twice a month and it takes days to recover from the pain and anxiety.
the sick thing is he was meeting his new OW there.but he felt so compelled to track me down that he left her in the dust. any noble man would have seen my car in the lot and left- doing the gracious and respectful thing of not walking with the OW where his ex is..he has no boundaries, he could care less about my pain, her potential pain. he wants what he wants and that is all that matters.
so I am just feeling so deflated and hopeless because I wonder if this addiction will ever truly be lifted from me.
I have done everything to disappear from his world. yet these random run ins hurt my heart and mind so much- they rattle me for days. I crave, I obsess, I grief, I hate....when will this stop?
I will not break NC, don't worry.
I just wonder if the only freedom will come if I move from this beloved town. and start fresh somewhere far away.
It seems SO HUGE to do this. I have a very established business here. I have so many good and loyal friends, I have a wonderful home in a wonderful town...Do I really have to uproot my entire life to be free of this torture?
Don't move...
Have u really done everything
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Thank you Winter, these are wise loving ideas.
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Screw him, he is creating a
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