Did your Narc send inane texts?

Do they count? With nuggets o' wisdom like "This lecture is about two books" (when it was obvious from the title, this was a proto-internet meme), or "St. Augustine is happy and Wittgenstein is unhappy." Back in the day (of the ancient Greeks), fake philosophers were called sophists. He was into the "everything is meaningless",was anti-science (thanks to Tolstoy, despite the fact his father&his wife are scientists) and anti-philosophy, despite trying to pass himself off as a philosopher.

After three months of not speaking (which was brought on by a huge and very painful fight)..he texted me "hey, what's up?"....like it was nothing. So weird.

The Narc was that way too. We could be in a horrible place and he would respond with the same types of mundane, nonchalant texts. They do this because they refuse to acknowledge what they are doing to you. They don't want to say too much because it might lead to a discussion involving feelings and emotions and they have neither of those things. In their world they are doing nothing wrong so its no problem for them to keep it causual... They are the issue... Trust me if you were the issue they would have plenty to say or text....

Typical replys from the narc: busy, beat it, nope, yup, k, you need meds, in a meeting, stop too busy for BS, touch base next week. If he wanted supply: I miss you baby, sure Hun, love you, I want you so bad, how are you doing today?, can I call you because I need to hear your voice. So gross. And guess what? I'd take whatever I could from him. I was addicted...sadly still am.

When I say things meaningful he says things like, I hear you or Ok. Its strange. One thing he used to say when we were together and I wanted to be heard or validated I would say well at least you could say some thing like this.....what it was and he would say " see it would never occur to me to even think those things"

Yup. They seemed to come out of left field. "Need to be close soon" (translation, I want to use your body to fulfill my needs or use your soft shoulders to cry on) I would send a meaningful text, more than just one or two words, maybe asking an important question...and would get a one-liner. "yes" or "OK". This is a person with a Master's degree...in social work of all things, with a concentration in Psychology, and scholar of scholars. I'm talking about a merit scholarship that has been awarded to senators, doctors, judges, and some vice presidential candidates. Of course, I have since learned that conversing or intellectualizing with their partners is beneath them, because we could not possibly be on the same intellectual level as them. (thanks to someone's earlier posts from this morning which explained this via Sam V). These revelations are coming daily to me. Almost every single "topic" that comes up here, I have identified with SO MUCH! It has been validating and mindblowing at the same time...but ultimately healing. I owe everyone here my life, really, I do. If I could not relate with all of you wonderful strong beautiful and vulnerable human beings...I honestly don't think I would have made it even past one month. Yet four months ago today marks my last "hoover". My last attempt at salvaging a relationship which she had thrown away a year ago.

Yep, after being blocked,silent treatment for 2 years he started that crazy shit...2 months ago i got one ,in which he tells me his internet services are going to be terminated,so hhe gave me a new email (hotmail)specially made for me if i felt like "stalking' him...i didn't use it,so i got another email saying that he was just wondering and noticed i did not send any emails lately....then another one thanking me for not sending him a bunch of emails and to 'have Fun"...Then i saw red and told him to NOT contact me because i do not need crumbs,i am an Eagle and not a Yardbird...and he told me he still wants nothing to do with me,and that since we are not together he has no reason whatsoever to contact or have conversations with me,as amatter of fact,with anybody,he keeps it to himself...WTF!&%$#