did your narc have a song or songs for you????

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#1 Jul 15 - 9AM
sweetsamm
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did your narc have a song or songs for you????

I can finally listen to SoulSista again on the radio without breaking down..did anyone else have a narc that always had songs that reminded him of you?? That STUPID song was my ringtone,ringback,etc....He called me the day after meeting me and told me to listen to the words of that song..i'm sure he learned that from some pick up women website...what is soooo crazy is that the day before he broke up with me(stopped calling) we were listening to the radio and that song 'smile' by uncle kracker came on and he asked me who sang it..i remember thinking,'he's gonna tell some girl that song reminds him of her'...what are the odds that im right???? I hate him even more now!!

Jul 17 - 4PM
Susan32
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Psychopaths and Music

My ex-Psychopath professor claimed that he liked jazz, and he talked about taking piano lessons (though I never heard him play) His tastes in music were... non-descript. He didn't strike me as very musical, since emotions play a big role in music. Songs involve emotions. He was so much the emotionless Mr. Spock type I think music didn't register with him.
Jul 16 - 11PM
happydaysahead
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Mine was....

Too Shy Shy by Kajagoogoo. Silly 80's song but he had the goofiest dance to go along with it. LOL And I think about him every time I hear it. Luckily, I don't hear it very often :)
Jul 17 - 9AM (Reply to #38)
betty2020
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I bet that was a sight for

I bet that was a sight for sore eyes. What an idiot. only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

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Jul 16 - 11PM
neveragain5
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I've Got Another One for THEM!

Plain White T's- Hate (I Really Don't Like You) Love, love, love, love, love, love. Woo! You were everything I wanted. You were everything a girl could be. (change to boy) Then you left me brokenhearted, Now you don't mean a thing to me. All I wanted was your Love, love, love, love, love, love. Hate is a strong word, but i really, really, really don't like you. Now that it's over I don't even know what I liked about you. Brought you around, and you just brought me down. Hate is a strong word, but I really, really, really don't like you. I really don't like you... Thought that everything was perfect, Isn't that how it's supposed to be? Thought you thought that I was worth it, Now I think a little differently. All i wanted was your Love, love, love, love, love, love. Hate is a strong word, but i really, really, really don't like you. (I really don't like you) Now that it's over I don't even know what I liked about you. (liked about you) Brought you around, and you just brought me down. Hate is a strong word, but I really, really, really dont like you Now that it's over, you can't hurt me. Now that it's over, you can't bring me down. (Ooh, ooh, ooh, oh, oh, oh...)[x2] All i wanted was your Love, love, love, love, love, love. Hate is a strong word, but i really, really, really don't like you. (I really don't like you) Now that it's over I don't even know what I liked about you. (Liked about you) Brought you around, and you just brought me down. Hate is a strong word, but I really, really, really dont like you (Ooh, ooh, ooh, oh, oh, oh...)[x4]silent (I really don't like you...) [x3]louder
Jul 16 - 2PM
ShaynasMommy
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I don't remember a special song...

....other than the one he played for me the morning after he dumped me at the alter, for the OW. It was a Michael Bolton tune, I believe, entitled: " I can go the distance". Unbelievably shocking and appalling then, funny as spun sh*t looking back now!
Jul 16 - 2PM (Reply to #35)
wholeagain
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He...

played a Michael Bolton song for you the day after leaving you at the altar. That's a narc for ya! :P
Jul 16 - 2PM
Allie
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He had many songs that he said were "our songs"

When we were in high school our song was "I can dream about you" by Dan Hartman (I just dated myself there, lol) one of the last and by far dickiest songs he said reminded him of me and our relationship was "Sundown" by Gordon Lightfoot, which is a really good song, but seems to be about a whore...which is probably how he wanted to view me, and he REALLY got off on the fact that he was trying to seduce a married woman, a big prize for a narc. He also said the Gordon Lightfoot song "If you could read my mind" was our song too...and told me that he knew that he would always be the "ghost" I couldn't see...so arrogant. I can't listen to Gordon Lightfoot anymore, and I really liked him!
Jul 17 - 12AM (Reply to #33)
NancyM
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Using "If you could read my

Using "If you could read my mind" on you is a typical Narc projection in my opinion. He was telling you that you were the ghost, not vice versa. Actually I had a song for my Narc, if it came on he would fast forward it.. Charlie Rich..."Set Me Free" If you think you've had enough If you think our life's been rough Why not take your love line off of me And set me free. If you think our love's all wrong And you feel the fire is gone If I'm not what you'dlike for me To be, set me free. Set me free and let me fly Like a bluebird fly 'n high Release the chains that bind me To be, set me free. But you can't likes to hold on Onto love till it grows cold And you held on much too long To me, set me free. Set me free and let me fly Like a bluebird fly 'n high Release the chains that bind me To be, set me free. Set me free...

Nevergoback

Jul 16 - 3PM (Reply to #32)
passionatebutterfly
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Allie....once again you

Allie....once again you leave me speechless. "S" gave me that song back in the day too....."If you could read my mind" unfreakingbelievable. This is freaking me out. Jennyxoxo
Jul 16 - 1PM
betty2020
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Oh wait...i just remembered

Oh wait...i just remembered there is a song from when we first started dating 3 months in when he ditched me the first time. "Im Sorry", dont know who the artist is but its something like this... "Im sorry your sad, Im sorry your blue, Im sorry bout all the things i did to you and i know I cant take it back",,,, I should seen it for what it was and never accepted that apology. only one way to go...Forward

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Jul 16 - 3PM (Reply to #29)
passionatebutterfly
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that is by Buckcherry! good

that is by Buckcherry! good one! Jennyxoxo
Jul 16 - 3PM (Reply to #30)
betty2020
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Oh thats right. I really

Oh thats right. I really hate them now. Thats ashame. only one way to go...Forward

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Jul 16 - 1PM
betty2020
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No but i had one for

No but i had one for him... Your hot then your cold by Katie Perry only one way to go...Forward

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Jul 17 - 7AM
passionatebutterfly
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Songs? Songs? Where do I

Songs? Songs? Where do I begin? There must be over 100 songs "about us" that he sent to me. Made me 3 cds last year too. Typical.....always borrowing words from someone else because they can't think of anything to say themselves. Borrowed words from songs, movies, books, and from me. He kept them coming even after I left him and he was with the next supply! here is just a small sampling: Beloved Wife, Natalie Merchant Love Remains the Same, Gavin Rossdale Come On get Higher, Matt Nathanson Anything by Sting Lots of Sade incl. Kiss of Life, Cherish the Day, Paradise, By Your Side, etc Jim Brickman songs Coldplay songs Fleetwood Mac songs The Eagles Jackson Brown Do You Believe Me Now, Jimmy Wayne Quiet Times, Dido Wildest Dreams, Moody Blues Everything Pat Metheny...recorded Under the Missouri Sky CD and gave it to me last year Collide, Howie Day Genesis/Phil Collins If You're Not the One, Daniel Beddingfield Realize, Colbie Caillet I Love You, Sarah MacLachlin plus others Staind music 3 Doors Down music Right Down the Line, Gerry Rafferty Where I stood, Missy Higgins Someday, Sugar Ray Duran Duran Chasing Cars, Snow Patrol Kate Bush (she reminds him of me) Bargain, The Who Harvest, Neil Young You Are So beautiful, Joe Cocker and that's just off the top of my head. I have no doubt he uses the same songs on everyone so he doesn't have to worry about getting mixed up. Wow, that was funny to think about! Jennyxoxo
Jul 17 - 7AM (Reply to #26)
NancyM
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I will just take ur

I will just take ur list...saves me typing it out. LMBAO

Nevergoback

Jul 16 - 12AM
Susan32
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The piano

My ex-Psychopath professor talked about taking piano lessons. The professors do teach music courses (like music theory, opera) I NEVER heard him play the piano. He talked about liking jazz, but when I asked what musicians he liked, he got vague and stonewalled(!!!) He seemed to find music an alien form of amusement. He just couldn't get into it. He seemed to find the concerts at the college incredibly boring. He'd totally zone out.
Jul 15 - 10PM
Happy1
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My mad scientist played the

My mad scientist played the guitar for me which I loved when I first met him. He hasn't played it in about a year. I'm sure he will take that up again when he meets his next poor victim.
Jul 16 - 11PM (Reply to #22)
happydaysahead
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My N..

could play the "skin flute" like nobody's business !! BLAHHHHH
Jul 16 - 11PM (Reply to #23)
MsVulcan500
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LMAO!!

LMAO!!
Jul 15 - 11PM (Reply to #17)
neveragain5
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The damn guitar!! All he

The damn guitar!! All he talked about was his guitar playing and how he would one day play for me. After a couple months of saying this, he writes me an email to tell me how I was never interested in hearing him play. WHAT?!!! Every time I brought it up he said that he didn't bring it with him or that he as working on it. I think that he wanted me to beg or something.
Jul 16 - 12AM (Reply to #18)
better off
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I think they all have a

I think they all have a guitar. It's probably a stock item to have in the Narcissist Pick-up Artist Kit.
Jul 16 - 1PM (Reply to #19)
betty2020
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It is; even though they are

It is; even though they are artistically illiterate. Makes em think they look special though. hahaha only one way to go...Forward

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Jul 16 - 1PM (Reply to #20)
wholeagain
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Yep. The ExN had one too

brought it out at parties after a few drinks.
Jul 16 - 1PM (Reply to #21)
betty2020
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Boy nothing like a buzz

Boy nothing like a buzz kill!! One good way to clear a party...Give a Narc a Musical Instrument. haha one way to go...Forward

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Jul 15 - 10PM
gigi9
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Hahaha....

The songs he had for me........he had for the previous and for the future NS too.....these slimy bastards live a scripted and unfulfilled life......
Jul 16 - 1PM (Reply to #15)
betty2020
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God he can even be original

God he can even be original enough to change songs????..Talk about repeating the patterns. That;s just sick. Get some new material dude!!!lol only one way to go...Forward

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Jul 15 - 5PM
better off
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Hey, Sweetsamm... I wanted

Hey, Sweetsamm... I wanted to tell you to check out this website... lots of great stuff on it that I think you can relate to: http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2008/05/pick-up-artist.html
Jul 15 - 1PM
hopefuljms
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Mine wrote me poems, I

Mine wrote me poems, I thought it was so amazing and tender but really is was just to win me over and suck me dry. It was all so dramatic, I was his soulmate, the female version of him...now the soulmate is 17years younger than he is. At least I was smart enough not to marry him when he asked me. If I had I would be divorced and probably supporting him!
Jul 15 - 5PM (Reply to #12)
better off
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Mine wrote me a song and

Mine wrote me a song and poems also. And of course made me CD's. At least I can't hear the song he wrote me on the radio! It was hell the first year when every song "we" had was being played a lot. I just kept the radio off, but then I got a job where they played all that music over and over and over. It was a nightmare. But, eventually, it worked like desensitization therapy, and now I don't even notice it. 700 plays of a song really kind of takes the emotion out of it, lol. Funny, just yesterday I heard Torn by Natalie Imbruglia... if you are just coming out of the relationship, that song is very poignant about the feelings you have.. I used to listen to it and weep. But yesterday I was busy doing something and realized I was kind of humming along and it took a second to realize it was that song. I thought, wow am I better!! :D
Jul 15 - 1PM
rainbow1
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Whatever it is by Zac Brown

Whatever it is by Zac Brown Band He used to love to sing the part to me where it says "shes gonna be my wife". Gross!

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