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Did you ever feel "possessed" or feel out of control,,,

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#1 May 30 - 9AM
Amazed
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Did you ever feel "possessed" or feel out of control,,,

Did you ever feel like the Narc/Psychopath had almost a "remote control" over you, like you suddenly had to do something, like it was the Narc remotely controlling you? It is something you usually wouldn't do, but it is as if something suddenly comes over you?

For example, when he would be in our office with a certain woman,,I would have to pick up my things and go,,,it was as if there was an "energy" in the room that made me run.

Have you ever experienced it when they emit this energy?

May 30 - 11PM
enoughalready
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possessed feelings

Yes. I felt as if I was not in control of my feelings w/ him. We had mostly a "texting" relationship. He'd txted every morning, good morning and good night during the weekdays. The weekends he didn't txt morning or night due to sleeping in and staying out late or w/ other women. I checked my cell every 10 mins or so when we were together. It was sickening. Certain words he'd txted just to irritate me...and it would. I'm so relieved I went total NC. I still think of him daily but not every min like before. I always felt I was in control of everything, when he controlled me w/ his brainwashing and mind-bending games.
May 30 - 12PM
Barbara (not verified)
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yes

this is called "zapping and sapping" and pathologicals do it all the time. PLEASE READ WOMEN WHO LOVE PSYCHOPATHS for an explanation of their brainwashing & mind control. ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
Jun 8 - 9PM (Reply to #12)
enoughalready
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Barbara

Where would I find this book to buy online? Thanks
Jun 8 - 9PM (Reply to #13)
Barbara (not verified)
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enoughalready

http://saferelationshipsmagazine.com/women-who-love-psychopaths-book-center ~~~~~~~~~ Effective Coaching Specifically for Victims of Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
Jun 8 - 10PM (Reply to #14)
enoughalready
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Barbara

Thanks. Just ordered it.
May 30 - 5PM (Reply to #11)
hitandrun
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A MUST Read

Reread it today for reinforcement.
May 30 - 11AM
aceonelady
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he also told me

He also told me most people believe anything he says,incluiding me and that if he knows somebody is interested in a certain subject that he would read about that so the person thinks that he also has that interest...Talking about manipulation....

Aceonelady

May 30 - 12PM (Reply to #5)
hitandrun
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Oh yeah

I still look for his emails in the morning(he sent them every morning like clock work) and look for his phone calls on a phone that I no longer have! I actually walk into the kitchen like a zombie at certain times to check the caller id and then I snap out of it and realize THERE IS NO PHONE. When I catch myself doing this(it's like I am on automatic pilot), I remind myself of the reality of it all. He totally trained me. Kind of spooky.
May 31 - 7AM (Reply to #6)
cynthia (not verified)
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Amazing

When I was with him I too would check my cell phone, even when I was WITH the SOB, I swear half the time I felt like I had a relationship with my cell phone and not a real person. I knew when he could call and when he couldnt, and I knew if more than 4 days went by the bastard was on a vacation and didnt tell me, then he would call after a week or so and say "where have you been?" Ya right where have YOU been you lying sick freak, like he thought I was THAT stupid not to know, and when I would say did you have a nice vacation he would say, "cant a person take a few days off?" I wish I would have said sooner, take all the days off you want from me permanately!!!!
Jun 1 - 12AM (Reply to #7)
Amazed
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Yeah, I felt like I was in a relationship with a cell phone,,,,,

He would send me so many txts,,I felt like I had a cell phone relationship.,,,,I even said this to him,,,it is not a problem,,if they are being HONEST,,,and TRUTHFUL,,,and OPEN,,, and have LEGITIMATE feelings,,,! Problem with a pathological, is that there is not a bit of that openness going on,,,, When you try to communicate this or express this to them,,thats when you realize they are not open, caring human beings....
Jun 8 - 9PM (Reply to #9)
helldweller
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thousands of texts

Seriously. There was almost a thousand in one day. He would not answer the phone. I would call him and leave him voice mails yelling, "Pick up the phone, sissy!"
Jun 1 - 6AM (Reply to #8)
Barbara (not verified)
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object

why should they be honest with an OBJECT? ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 30 - 11AM
aceonelady
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possessed....

Is been a year and 5 months since he dumped me,and i still feel the so called energy... he live in the USA me in Europe...I still look at the clock at midnight,is the time that he leaves his work and we used to start talking on Skype...1pm i used to call him to wake him up ,i still look at the time...weekends i know that around 2am my time he will be eating,then taking a nap and then will be at his PC for maybe searching for new victim or he has somebody already that he is working on....And then is for me very painful knowing that he is at his PC,and dont even care if i live or die,then i come here to this place read and so i keep the NC that he started....But i fell his presence....

Aceonelady

May 30 - 10AM
Monica
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It got so I couldn't say "no" to him....

No matter how badly he treated me (ignoring, indifferent, lying about everything, etc.) when he wanted or needed something (especially sex or information) I finally realized that I could not say "no" to him. I didn't even recognize myself anymore. I guess I hit rock bottom. I kept trying to push him away but he kept pulling me back in. Finally, I told him I could no longer see him or talk with him again. (Can't break the "spell," stop the brainwashing and mind control unless there is total NC.) I actually told him (not that it mattered at all to him) that I didn't know who I was anymore and that I couldn't say "no" to him and that we could not be friends...it was OVER. He had had total control over me and he knew it and basked in that power. He once told me that he had "people who will do whatever I tell them to do." I realized that I had become one of those people. That was a real eye opener; it gave me the clarity I needed to sever ties with him.
May 30 - 10AM
GIJ
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They are masters at behavior modification

He may have used NLP techniques on you to program to you respond that way. It is all part of the brainwashing. I have been on the receiving end for sure. The last time I spoke to my narc, he used NLP embedded commands. I was so confused when we hung up. And sadly, I find myself complying, even before I learned to go no contact. I have a genuine respect for how thoroughly they can get into the minds of others. That was when I started researching all of this. His staff left me a trail of clues. I googled words I had heard them use, evil and narc, etc. What a nightmare. What is so ridiculous and sick is that the nlp on that call really wasn't necessary. A simple request, with perhaps a simple explanation, would have been sufficient given the situation. But no, he had to manipulate and be in "total control". He can brain wash in his sleep (not that he actually sleeps!). He is a master at it. A total natural. I'm sure they all are. Bottom line - you aren't crazy. He does have control over you. You need to be deprogrammed. Have you gone no contact? Working with a therapist?