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Did the Predator destroy my marriage, or help??

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#1 Jan 8 - 10AM
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Did the Predator destroy my marriage, or help??

My marriage was horrible b-4 the masked man, maybe he just put the finishing touches on to open my eyes.

I have wanted out of my marriage for over 10 years, even my sister-n-law reminded me of how I have never been happy with my husband. I want to make sure I am pursuing my divorce for the right reasons and not because I am sooo damaged that I can no longer sustain my marriage.

It is my belief that the abuse I endured with my husband combined with the Psychopath's was more than enough to look in the mirror and say, I HAVE HAD ENOUGH, I dont want this anymore, if I cant have a healthy relationship that makes me feel good about myself then I want no part of it. My husband claims he will change, you couldnt possible change to be the partner I want and quite frankly I dont want to be with someone that needs to change. I have already spent too much time wasting it on abusers and wishing I could fix them, its no way to live. One week they are fine, the next week they rage, or lash out at you, I wonder what it feels like to not have to walk on eggshells my whole life? Maybe I can throw away the xanax when I find out.

Jan 8 - 7PM
4joys4
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cynthia

It's great for me not having the stress anymore of walking on eggshells. You get new challenges (like lonliness), but they are all yours! I like what you said about not wanting to be with someone who has to change. If they were going to change, they would have already, right? lol
Jan 8 - 5PM
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I just read this in the book

I just read this in the book "Weight Loss for the Mind" Life is mostly guesswork. You will usually guess more or less right and sometimes you'll guess wrong. When you guess wrong don't react-love your mistakes, and don't beat yourself up. You made a couple of mistakes but you are getting free from it all. Men who need to be fixed, need to change, need to go to rehab ect are all going to cause problems. You need to find someone who doesn't need any fixing.
Jan 8 - 7PM (Reply to #8)
Barbara (not verified)
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Stuart Wilde

"Weight Loss for the Mind" was written by Stuart Wilde Wilde has been exposed a number of times as a New-Age type guru who runs bogus seminars and scams his "followers" out of money with the ridiculous products. He's in the Joel Osteen, "the Secret" & Justin Barrymore school of scammers. ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Jan 14 - 6PM (Reply to #9)
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Barbara

Hi. I'm glad you said this about the Stuart Wilde book cos i read it recently and felt very uncomfortable with it. I felt that it was teaching how to live in a narcissistic world. I sensed something wasn't right with it and it turns out that he runs bogus seminars and scams people for money. I said that i felt it was just trying to make money. It was just words to me and no meaning behind it. This is good news that i felt this coming through the book pages. His other book, the other pocket one wasn't so bad. Now i know this though i won't be reading any of it.
Jan 14 - 6PM (Reply to #10)
Barbara (not verified)
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Ellen

one should always google these self-help authors and gurus and read EVERYTHING if there's even the suspicion of cult-like behaviors... BURN THE BOOK. Unfortunately victims of pathologicals are often in such a weak state of mind they will cling to anything. This is how SV sucks people in. I learned the hard way. Anything connected to a guru-like leader, anything that has a "following," anything that holds victims responsible for their problems, anything connected to religion (or Scientology), anything that is heavily marketed... RUN SCREAMIN! There was a time when I really liked Robert Burney (http://joy2meu.com/) - now I know how full of doo-doo his stuff is. ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Jan 8 - 11AM
Barbara (not verified)
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cynthia

our marriages were already circling the bowl the predators just got out the plunger ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Jan 8 - 11AM (Reply to #3)
cynthia (not verified)
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Barbara

I thought so, there I go not trusting my gut instinct as I should by now. All I need to do now Barbara is just take that big step and flush the shit down the toilet!!!!!!!!!!!
Jan 8 - 2PM (Reply to #4)
Barbara (not verified)
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cynthia

think about it... if our marriages were good - the Predators a. wouldn't have bothered and b. if they did we would have laughed in their faces. like I said -- we were PRE-TENDERIZED MEAT ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Jan 8 - 3PM (Reply to #5)
cynthia (not verified)
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Barbara

Now we can laugh in their faces for the first time, thats when the cowards usually run for the hills. Just think soon I will be a freshly divorced woman but this is one woman a predator wont be able to smell vulnerability on, my new perfume is called BITCH but only to the predators!!!!
Jan 8 - 3PM (Reply to #6)
angie
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LOL!!!

"my new perfume is called BITCH"...i loooove that! cheers to having the strength and wisdom to steer clear of the predators!
Jan 8 - 11AM
Barbara (not verified)
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