Did the Narc also D&D his friends and family along with you?????

Mine hated his mother , he used to shout at her and say the most hateful things and then a couple of days later it was like it had never happened - this used to freak me out.He used to come home and say that he hated her and would never speak to her again - but he would. To be honest she was strange - she used to do that hug to me, you know the one where they pat your back and don't really hug you. I get on with most people but I always struggled with her. She once told me when I opened up to her a little about what was going on, that it would be best if I just kept quiet and stopped causing problems!!!!! Her husband, narcs dad, is in prison for fraud for 12 years......bet she wished she had got out years earlier....think she was jealous of my ability to escape. ha ha I am free xxxxxxxxxxxx

but i will chime in... he seemed to idolize his mom "my mom is so sensitive, wonderful, peace-maker, etc." he had a "crazy uncle" who "brain washed" his grandma? he went to do some acupuncture on his sister for a fever she had... she started crying... he got mad and left, said she was "ungrateful" and "too emotional" she had been/is trying to get pregnant and was sick! she even made the N cookies and he peaced out! i know a lot of his "friends" were "patients" of his... and he would talk about some guys being mad at him or requesting copies of xrays to take someone else or not wanting N to treat them anymore... IDK if that is D&D but it's not normal...

and family are strangers. That's how it seems when dealing with a narc. Mine D & D'd his sisters at the time of our breakup. Seven years later they still don't speak at all. ExN lied to our daughters in an attempt to explain this by saying that he was never close to his sisters. This is a complete lie but they were too young to realize this. Anyone who dares to judge or confront them on their behavior will be discarded in the blink of an eye. If you see this you know you are dealing with a narc.

Routinely push away those close to them. This is just another reason for the need for constant new supply. They realize that it is just a matter of time that supply "finds them out" and they need new hook ups. This includes: women, co workers, "buddies", family, ect... PD's are notorious for fighting with their families or engaging in ST depending on their M/O. This is in direct relationship to the extent of damage to their personalities and the nature of their PD. What you see is what you get They do NOT do intimate and everyone gets fucked at one point or another if they make the mistake of getting CLOSE to a PD. The only one's who don't get the abuse are those on the outside who only KNOW them on a surface level. They may never see any of it and then again they may if they are present when the shit hits the fan with someone else and they are a witness. They are usually shocked when this happens because they seldom have seen te PD with their mask down as WE have the privledge of witnessing often. This is why it often APPEARS as though they get away with things. They don't, it ALWAYS comes out, ALWAYS. When they grow older MOST of them sit in a Lazy Boy and watch TV with some sad women who LOVES them and just sits there next to them and serves them their meals in front of the TV or they sit there ALONE if they have burned out all their supply. They watch TV because this is their life. Too old to suck in new supply and they talk about their BORING bullshit stories about how great they USED TO BE. This is what you have to look forward to if you stay with these freaks. GUNSMOKE and CSI RERUNS. YAY!!!! Godbless, Goldie

If these people still speak well of you...TO HIM THAT IS A NARC INJURY!!!.... He will talk to them again at some stage ,when he needs them again, and they will answer him b/c he is family... The narcs friend, I guess is hurt by beign dropped, so my guess is if narc were to want to talk to him again at some stage he would speak..... There is no real getting IT WITH A NARC..... This is just my opinion...

Yes....mine had periods of devaluing his own parents. LOL - of course his mother deserved it. I have also been told that many years ago, he walked away from them with no contact for over two years.