Did it ever happened to you..

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#1 Jan 22 - 2AM
greengirl91
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Did it ever happened to you..

..to get so used to this community of wonderful supportive people on the Path Forward, and then get out in the world and face the indifference, the "NO`s" the pissed look-faces of some people? And wish to run the hell away from there, and come here again, and talk to your virtual friends?..

It did happen to me.

I`ve come to get used to this place, where people are always supportive, and lend a hand, an advice. And I get to appreciate it even more now, after people around here, have lifted me many times, or even reading other`s stories, both warnings and stories of success, it helped me.

I`ve come to appreciate it even more because I realise how rare this is in our days you know, people coming together, united by "a not so good experience, the Narcs/Toxics" in our lives, but I dare to say that, when we will take the leap, discover our own light at the end of the tunnel, we will be 10 times richer emotionally, wiser than when we came here.

And it`s odd sometimes when we go back into the world, and see how different people behave compared to this place. And how significant it is, to have someone to inspire you, to guide you, to tell you that you are going to make it through this, that you can, that this experience will not own you, but on the contrary, it will make you stronger..and wiser.

They did not kill the love in us.

Sometimes it`s hard for me to see in which direction am I going, but all I know is..I`m going forward.

Have a beautiful day/night everyone, thank you for reading!

Jan 22 - 1PM
IncognitoBurrito
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+1

Oh, no you don't! I'm not going to cry today!
Jan 24 - 7AM (Reply to #8)
greengirl91
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Hugs! =)

Hugs! =)
Jan 22 - 11AM
gettinbetter
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In time you will integrate

In time you will integrate back into mainstream life. You wont notice those faces anymore. What I have realized is the Narcs make you so hypervigiliant to every little nuance a look a smile the lack of smile etc... than the world seems to become a hostile unfriendly place. Its just the stage your in. It passes too with TIME. I hate to say it but the only way out of the hell the Narc puts you in is TIME and NC. I enjoy coming back and commenting and helping where I can but for the most part of have joined the mainstream world again. Spending time with family and friends enjoying life again.
Jan 24 - 7AM (Reply to #6)
greengirl91
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Gettinbetter, I am glad you

Gettinbetter, I am glad you are doing fine. My post wasn`t meant to sound like a "complaint" about my situation, but on the contrary, I was saying how great it is to be part of this community of supportive people.. And I agree that these Narc/Toxic experiences, make you more AWARE, of every nuance/smile/tone, and sometimes you simply get angry or annoyed, with things/people that before you didn`t. But I believe it`s for the better. We are more aware of who we let in our lives, of boundaries. It makes us work harder on ourselfs, with everything, mentally, spiritually, discover a whole lot of things about ourselfs. And we have to be the ones doing it, breaking the chains, because nobody can do it for us. Thank you for your answer.
Jan 22 - 5AM
Sparrow
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Very true Green! We see the

Very true Green! We see the world and the people in it differently after our experience with the narc, and our healing journey. It's great to have a safe haven to turn to, and the forum is a place where many have come for support, guidance, safety. Thank goodness the forum exists! I hope you don't get so attached that you prefer to stay here and not encounter the real world! Everything in moderation, right?! Keep up the great work! Love reading your posts!
Jan 22 - 7AM (Reply to #4)
greengirl91
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Sparrow, thank you! I

Sparrow, thank you! I believe it`s hard to have a soul eitherway in this world you know..because they are so many people without these days, who value nothing like this. As for becoming an eternal ghost lurking around here, only here, no :P I was reffering to the fact that in the world, not many people are like here, supportive. Not that they would be Narcs or something, they just don`t care you know. That`s why I am so grateful I found this place..it helped me heal and stay on my own two feet again. :) Thank you, and I`m glad you like how my posts sound!
Jan 22 - 4AM
Black Pearl
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We build kindnesss

Yes through every experience we build on our character...... it is through bad experience that we experience pain and hurt and we gain new strengths that we never knew we had and through these experience we can help others. we build new qualities within ourselves, we become stronger, wiser, we learn how to empathize..... we live life and we learn and we share. we learn to love within ourselves and we share that love within others. The world looks allot different through a heart that has felt and through eyes that have cried.
Jan 22 - 7AM (Reply to #2)
greengirl91
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Hopefully, it will look

Hopefully, it will look better and better. I know that when you are in the depths of despair, the last thing you want to hear is "it`s gonna be fine", because you heard it 50 times arleady. But it does matter. We just gotta believe in ourselfs that we worth more than this, even if we don`t see this right now. Time, self love, people who inspire you, passions, this community, I say we can do it :)