did I do the right thing?...

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#1 Apr 1 - 9AM
taken
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did I do the right thing?...

Thanks to all who gave me words of encouragement on my previous post...I will try hard to learn from those who are more aware than I of this sickness....
Wondering if I am doing the right thing...looking for advice I guess...
Yesterday I ran into my exN (only 10 days ex)....in Walmart...I saw him when I entered the store...he was at the registers...I was getting work supplies...and couldn't just walk out...figured he would go thru the line and leave...I saw him look my way....I put my head down and just continued on my way...He came to where I was...stood there...and said "Uh...Hello?..."....the last time we had had contact...I had found him in a bar with a girl(who is probably as ignorant as I thinking "she" is his girlfriend too)....when confronted...walked out...and has ignored any attempt of contact from me....(I tried to talk to him for about 36 hours after the incident...and haven't since then)
I turned my head and walked on by....
Was that the correct thing to do? Do I act like he doesn't exist? Or do I politely say hi...then move on...
Not sure what is the right thing to do....being polite may keep him from revenge on me is my thinking...
But my thinking isn't too great right now...
So any advice would be welcome...
thx again...=]

Apr 1 - 6PM
Amazed
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No reaction, see right through him you did perfect

If you see him at all, ever and he makes a comment, act like you are deaf and don't respond. If he is anywhere you are, look the other direction. If he calls you or texts you, ignore it. Give him no reaction, none, even if he talks to you,,and he will,,he will act all friendly "hi" like nothing happened. Do not give him any response, nothing.
Apr 1 - 11AM
quietude (not verified)
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you did fine

If it happens again, yes...acting like he doesn't exist is the best way to handle it, because they *don't* exist, really ~ they're non-human. I guess you can look at it as you wouldn't talk to the paper you picked up that day either! ;) Good for you to keep your composure, sorry you had to run into the creep.
Apr 1 - 11AM
dysenchanted
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IMO

I think your response was fine, just what he deserved.Being polite only makes you available with a N. You don't want to give him any kind of opening to mess with your head. Just ignore, and learn to be comfortable doing it.
Apr 1 - 12PM (Reply to #2)
Barbara (not verified)
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taken

Was that the correct thing to do? Do I act like he doesn't exist? PERFECT!! KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK!!!
Apr 1 - 5PM (Reply to #3)
Empathy
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YES YES perfect reaction!

ALWAYS ignore them. ...to them even eye contact means validation .SO DO NOT EVEN LOOK AT THEM!! Well done keep up the good work.