Crying tonight because I believed he wanted to change...
Crying tonight because I believed he wanted to change...
Well. Yup. Me again. NC? Nope. He told me he was "serious" about changing. He even went so far as to get information on counselors, start reading a book I recommended and have his mother read it.
Tonight?
We just started talking about things and he asked me "why do you think I don't think you are beautiful?" I started to comment about how he verbally abused me in the relationship. I mentioned one time when we were on his boat after a romantic evening with candlelight and him playing his guitar. He looked at me and said. "I have a new nickname for you." (March 2010) I asked him what it was and he said "OW". It stood for "Old Woman". This is my journal entry from last March...
"Last weekend on Saturday night we were on his deck and he was playing the guitar for me. He told me he had a new nickname for me. It was “OW”. “OW” is supposed to stand for “Old Woman”. When I told him how upset I was that he kept bringing up my age he said he could get “rageful” about my “inability to accept his apology”. Again. He can say what he wants and I am to get over it in a nano-second."
He denied ever saying it tonight. I told him unless he was honest about the verbal abuse we had no future. I sent him an email with the things he said to me which were just bloody awful. I was rewarded with two N rages on my voice mail the second of which he said it "was over" and you know what?
IT IS OVER!
He will never change. He can't. He lies about EVERYTHING.
Dear Readers?
I am not picking up. I am not listening. I am not reading. I do need to find a good counselor.
Happy Bloody Christmas eh? My N? Says "I will listen". Sends me articles about abuse. Links to programs. Then lies to me about one simple story and N rages when I tell him he has to be honest about EVERYTHING. And, that means EVERYTHING. Period.
Ad nauseum.
Please make me whole again. I feel like I am in "Forrest Gump". "God make me a bird. Let me fly away."
Good night and sorry. I thought he was redeemable.
kittyvictim
Ugh
"God make me a bird. Let me fly away."
Flying...
Wow, that was an honest good vent
Yes! But, he was older than me...
None of them are redeemable,
I so want to go not NC!
Kitty, there is only one
The Monster on the Boat...
kitty
Oh my...