crazy things my n said or did

• After we broke up he said…I don’t care if you died. (he got upset after he called me and I didn’t tell him what he wanted to hear) • ‘’As your boyfriend…I’d like you to…’’

One time when we were getting back together after one of the breakups, he gave me a plastic lightsaber. One of the super cheapy ones from Target for like $17. He said it was to symbolize that he was the master, and I was the student, and there was SO MUCH he could teach me. Uhhhh...I had a college degree in something actually meaningful. I made almost twice as much money as he did. I was older than him by four years. His mom still washed and folded his laundry even though he was in his late 20's. Thinking back on that, I now laugh hysterically. I should have told him to shove that lightsaber up his ass. At the time I was just grateful that he wanted to be with me again. *tries not to throw up* God, there are so many things that assclown did. I'd be here all day if I listed them.

flirted with me while doing me a nice favor washing my car....then stopped talking for no reason and disappeared for 6 weeks - that was the 2nd silent treatment around 2005 Most of them were seasonal in the summer...

We spent all day with a group of friends and all our children, (we had four of our own at the time), on the way home the other families were stopping at restaurants for dinner because it was late and we were all exhausted. He said to me, "I think we should eat at home." I said, "well, what are you going to make?" He was furious, saying, "We just don't think alike!" I told him that I was exhausted and the baby and the two year old needed a bath. It was already 7 o'clock and just too late to make a whole dinner. It was a terrible fight. Several times when he was cheating and I knew it but he was denying everything saying I was having a postpartum breakdown after I had a baby, he would say: "I'm a complicated man. You need a simple man in your life, don't you." This is while I'm holding a newborn and trying to run a household, homeschool 4 children, and work weekends with the kids because we needed money. After coming home from three weeks out of town (pregnant and working) to find two trailers parked around my house with people livig in them and plugged into the electricity and water that I pay for I begin the conversation of: Why are they here? Why are they not paying? Who are they? We have children and they are strangers? Trailers...really?! His words: "You never support me!" "You're always causing DRAMA!" "You're such a bi**h!" I could go on and on. He's a king. Needs to be treated like one. He's going to write a book about his life. He could write a better movie than so and so. He would be a better actor than so and so. All good things happen to him. All things work out for him. Things don't work out for him because I don't support him. I'm causing Drama and problems (when I bring up anything that's not working out for me.) Wow, I could go on for a long time!!

The ex-Psych prof was a slender, tanned 32 year old when he said that... when he announced that in class, there was a communal jaw drop. Apparently, he identified with the plump masturbating Ignatius Reilly of "Confederacy of Dunces",the gluttonous bookworm Pierre in "War and Peace",as well as Homer Simpson himself. He waxed rhapsodic about a Simpsons episode in which Homer is force fed doughnuts. The ex-P did follow through. Over 4 years, he packed on the pounds. Some Ns/Ps hit the gym when they get new supply... the ex-P had let himself go when his girlfriend moved in. He had a belly, a double chin, he really let himself go.

"I didn't really have sex with her. I only put it in a little bit." Excuse me?!?! Their pants were down. The intent was there. He did the deed. In my book, he was cheating. "You don't have a maternal instinct in you." Spoken by a person with dick hanging between his legs, and narcissistic personality disorder. Xnh wouldn't know a "maternal instinct" even if it came up and bit him on the butt. "Why don't you just go ahead and die. Get it over with soon, because you're ruining my life and holding me back from achieving my 'dreams'. Xnh said this to me because I have severe health problems, and I didn't feel like going camping over the weekend like he wanted to do. Afterwards, I couldn't be near him for quite some time. This comment brought a very definite point home about how he REALLY feels about me (like maybe he really wanted me dead?). I never did trust him completely again, and felt I was very much sleeping with the enemy. He tried to tell me that I "heard him wrong, and he never said that." Thus, I heard lie number 8,674,935 come out of his mouth. Xnh REALLY does not know when to shut up. Like you, my list is endless about the crazy things xnh said. He was really good at opening his mouth and having shit fall out. Your comment really hit a nerve with me: *When I commented that I was uncomfortable about his school age daughters sleeping with him...he accused me of being jealous. And when that didn't stick, accused me of accusing him of child molestation." This could have been xnh. One of the crazy things he said to me when I kept finding him laying in bed with his daughters was "You just have a dirty mind. My relationship with my children is beautiful and natural. You just don't have a clue about the love I have for them because YOU are not a mother yourself." I hate to break it to xnh, but HE is not a "mother himself" either (well, maybe a motherf*cker" - lol). The last time I woke up to find xnh snuggling in bed with one his daughters was right before he D&D'd me. His daughter was 17 years old, just about to graduate from high school, and when I walked in on them he was kissing/petting her hair and massaging her back. She was wearing a nightgown...but still ewwwwww. I just about barfed, and when I told them that this behavior was extremely gross and inappropriate, xnh stood up and went into a rage at me. Several bruises later (on me, of course), xnh told me that *I* had a dirty mind. No, he's precariously close to incest (if not completely there). Now that we're divorced, xnh is currently living with both of his adult daughters (ages 18 and 21) and the oldest daughter's female baby. Remembering this, if I were rate xnh's behavior with his daughters on a scale of 1 - 10 (10 being the most revolting), I find his "beautiful natural relationship" with his daughters scoring about a 25. It pegs my "uck" meter right into the red, alarm zone. I'm SO glad I'm rid of xnh. You're absolutely right. Looking back, xnh is gross, pathetic, superficial, self-entitled, and selfish. I just want to kick myself for being so blinded by him for so long. Now, I wonder what DID I ever see in him that was attractive? Yuck.

"You pretend to be nice, but actually you're really selfish". "You're not very observant.... and if you tell yourself you are you would be lying to yourself". "You haven't found your ego yet .... I don't think you know your true self" (mental this one knowing what I know now .... projection at its best - it's them who have to hide their true selves) "I feel like I'm your carer ... and quite frnkly I don't know what to do about it" Apologies the next two are a bit crude ... "My handle bar tash got me loads of pussy last year" - (seriously should have ran a mile after this one - needless to say it wasn't long after this comment we split) " Phoar she'd look good on the end of my cock"

"I wouldn't care if you died" - Then he explained that when he gets angry he says things that are obviously ridiculous and he doesn't really feel so they don't hurt or count. Me on the other hand, has "venom when she speaks and knows how to hurt him" "Thousands of people die of cancer everyday" - When crying over the phone because my dad is terminal with brain cancer. "Get some friends" - When during a "break" I called him and told him about my dad going into hospice and stopping all treatments because there was nothing to do. I said "Sorry to call you but you have been my best friend for years and I need someone to talk to" And he said "get some friends".

I thought we were having a nice vacation in Paris when twice he said: "I want to push you off the Pont Neuf." I should have said e-neuf back then.

"I will stop you from reading 'War and Peace.'"-The ex-Psych prof is OBSESSED with "War and Peace." Yet the thought of a mere student like me reading it drove him into paroxysms of paranoia. My senior class was assigned to read "Anna Karenina" instead. However, I helpfully pointed out that I could read "War and Peace" in the bookstore, in the library. When I quoted parts of it, he FREAKED. He was afraid of me "tainting" it. "You're just like Princess Lisa!"-So he compares me to the pregnant, emotionally abused wife of Prince Andrei in "War and Peace." "You sound like a wife being beaten by her husband"-He's day this during class. "If you're so sad, why don't you kill yourself?"-This was after my grandfather died. "You look like a slut!"-Whenever I wore a dress or a skirt. "I am NOT like Rainbow Flava!"-He was obsessed with an LGBT African-American rap collective called Rainbow Flava. "I'm not gay, I'm NORMAL!"-Yet the gay rumors lasted all 4 years, and his girlfriend didn't help. "You're imposing yourself on me/violating my personal boundaries"-When I congratulated him on being engaged. "It shouldn't matter to you that I already have a girlfriend!"-This was after I declared my love.

My N's best lines were: "Things said in anger don't count." How convenient for him. However, everybody else was held accountable to him for everything they said at any given moment. "I was never sexually or emotionally connected to you. I thought my love for you would transform you as [ex-girlfriend's] love transformed me." Saying I married you because I loved you but I was not emotionally or sexually connected to you -- I thought that after I married you I could change you so that we could have an emotional & sexual connection. In the meantime I will engage in sexual activities with you and live a day-to-day life with you which is less than satisfactory to myself. Now, you better start changing now so that I feel connected to you or I will divorce you. And continue to provide me with these services which are unsatisfactory but better than nothing. Ladies, how's that for devaluation? And N -- he never thought this was any sort of a put down. (Gaslighting.) Now, the core of love is a feeling of "attachment." How can a person be attached to someone with whom there is no emotional or sexual attachment or connection? I think he was attached to my money. Not that I have much. But, I enabled him to acquire a house which was above his financial means. After I left him, he got his parents to buy out my share so he could keep the house. After his new girlfriend refused to buy in. Actually, it became apparent that money was the purpose of the NW--to also help finance his lifestyle. So I think "love" for this guy was -- I "love" whomever will subsidize my lifestyle & provide domestic/sexual services. And the sport of it all is in stalking her soul & destroying her self-worth.

thanks for your selection from nardom, i needed to hear some of these crazy things he said to you. It is all projection when you step aside and his sense of entitlement towards how others should react to HIM, his lordship, only problem he is a commoner who doesn't know it. Ah remember my pickle incident as well and the big argument because i forgot to buy kosher pickles for a stew i was making and we had to use the pickles he had at his place and did i hear the complaints over the stew for hours, because it was not the right pickles and then he said,'this is the last time we will have this meal', it was always his favorite, I think I could have reasoned with a toddler in a healthier manner, no joke!