The Crazy making behavior..Remember it just long enough to break away from it all!!
The Crazy making behavior..Remember it just long enough to break away from it all!!
some people think relationships are just a small portion of life and I've heard people say "just forget him, he was a jerk, just get over it!" I'm not for prolonging pain or dwelling on the past, and the sooner we can heal the better, yet I also know that one of the first steps toward healing is to acknowledge what we have been through. this is no regular breakup!There are times when I was truly starting to question my own sanity and I was filled with rage, stepping away to lock myself up and cry and scream far away from any place where people can hear me. At times, I banged my head against the wall and hit my legs out of frustration (this man's crazy making behavior was over the top sometimes, he would do things, then come ask me questions accusing me of stuff and telling me I told him things and did things I NEVER said or did) one time, my mother walked in on me and I had hit my head hard that I think I ruptured veins under my eyes and I had some purple bruise under my eyes, it was horrible, this is when he made up with me, was nice to me for a couple of days (to get attentions and some other stuff) then all of sudden he created an argument out of nothing ,said insulting and demeaning things to me, then hung up and he would not let me speak, he would hang up on me or block my number every time I tried to respond and explain myself after he uttered complete lies and false accusation toward me. He would tell me I told him things that I know I NEVER said (like that I told him I got together with a man or had feelings toward some guy..stuff like this) and I would be caught up in this mind-bending argument explaining myself and saying how that never happened in the first place, then he would disappear for a few days..right now he's in discard , devalue and ignore mode. I can't tell you how many times this has happened and you would think by now I know better to close the door on this disturbed soul and never let him in..
he was nice to me just two days ago, then out of no where, he started a new quarrel and now he blocked my number and does not talk to me or answer my calls, this is after he insulted me over a call (I was eating while talking to him and he said not to waste his time if I was busy doing other things, I said I'm just eating and I can talk to you, he said I don't care if you're resuscitating your dying mother, if you're doing something else, don't waste my time!!" so I left him a lone for a short while, then he still had attitude and told me "go get attention from you family.." and some more stuff, he often would say things to imply that I'm having some sexual relation with my family, what a sick freaked up man! he would say go be with your father, or go let you brother have his way with you! some sick and twisted stuff like that, then when I get angry and tell him how disrespectful he's been he'll hang up on me and ignore my calls for days...
right now, I'm keeping myself reminded of the horrible things he said just so I can gather the strength to walk away. he's been horrible to me lately and I'm literally losing my mind, looking to make sense of a man who is soo crazy-making and disturbed and alternates between being kind and loving to being so cruel, doubtful, paranoid and abusive..I'm DONE with this!
I'm sorry that my message is long, and please feel free to share your thoughts and feeling or anything. I'm writing because I've been seeing how helpful it is to state those experiences. Sometimes I repressed all the things that have been done to me to the point where I push them away somewhere in my being but there' not gone for good, they linger around and take their toll on me, so getting them out and remembering how miserable it's been at time is good in moments when I feel like reaching out to him..
Thank you for listening to me. Stay strong! you're doing good and I truly believe that better days will come.
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