the craziness you don't see when you're in love
the craziness you don't see when you're in love
I'm not sure why but I remembered something today that I had forgotten about. I thought I'd post it here as an example of some of the really crazy behavior of these Ns that we notice as strange when we're with them but unable to understand it. We are too quick to brush it off and make excuses for it.
In the beginning of our relationship, my exN had taken me to KY where his family is from. Overall, it was a nice visit but looking back, I remember a sort of emotional distance between everyone I met and the exN. They were all "friendly enough" to him although very welcoming to me.
The day we were scheduled to return to Chicago, we planned to meet for lunch with his mother, sister (46), brother (43), and his best friend from high school (who he was still in touch with) and the friend's wife. The exN and I got there first and got a table to seat everyone. He and I sat at one end. The friend arrived next (alone) and sat next to my exN. The brother arrived third and took a seat at the other end of the table. The four of us visited for about 15-20 minutes before everyone else arrived.
Nothing seemed out of the ordinary during lunch and overall, I had a very nice visit with them all. When we left, and got into the car for the drive home, the exN was very angry about something. When I asked him what was wrong, he said he was angry at his brother's attempt to control the situation "as usual". I noticed nothing from his brother except friendliness and normal conversation and said as much.
Then more angrily, the exN said "Didn't you notice how he came and sat at the OTHER end of the table so that Larry had to turn away from me to talk to him? He totally controlled Larry's and everyone else's focus to be ON HIM during the whole lunch!"
At the time I was completely dumbfounded and just sat there trying to process what I had just heard.
I could sit and write a book about all the red flags I totally ignored!!
just remembered another one
Believe in yourself!
Terri
what about the things you DO see?
So Sick
that's pretty bad
Believe in yourself!
Terri
shock
I HAVE DONE THAT TOO
Terri
Neverlookback
Believe in yourself!
Terri
Here is just ONE example
Funny you bring this up...
wholeagain
wholeagain and others
Ick
I began to realize that the
almostlydia
almostlydia
Arg!
Amen