Crap!! He's coming home AGAIN this weekend

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#1 Jul 22 - 2PM
WellRed
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Crap!! He's coming home AGAIN this weekend

Oh crap! He's coming home AGAIN this weekend. I asked him three weeks ago to stop commuting "home" every weekend. I told him if he is going to act like he is single, then he needs to live like he is single!!!!! I can't get rid of him. I guess I need to sit him down again and try to have a human conversation. Good luck to me - he is untalkable. He talks AT me not TO me. It is monologue, not dialogue. I have had my five days of peace and now he's going to show up again. Although he has been on his best behavior lately (he knows his N supply is running short with me). It's just that in the last 8 weeks without him home during the week, I feel such peace and a lack of the normal anxiety with him out of my life.

I guess his advertising himself on smut dating sites isn't working out too well. What an ass. His profile reads "Tall, Handsome, well hung and lots of cash". HA! He would be homeless if it weren't for me working while he was laid off last year. I'm really not worried about him having any type of long term affair. He is a crappy kisser and he sucks in bed!!

Jul 22 - 2PM
querida
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WellRed, we know what he

WellRed, we know what he wants... you AND the other women and the freedom to go where he pleases. So what is your desire? Do you want to work it out with him, or do you want to end the marriage?
Jul 22 - 2PM (Reply to #6)
WellRed
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querida

I want to end the marriage, no question. I am in preparation mode right now. By that I mean getting my finances in order etc. Right now I am just trying to keep the peace and buy some time to get out of this mess. Him not living with me 7 days a week makes my life bearable. Boy, I am looking at what I am writing and think "I am pathetic".
Jul 22 - 3PM (Reply to #7)
querida
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not pathetic at all!! You

not pathetic at all!! You have been married a LONG time, it takes a minute. I just read your concern about him coming back and stealing your peace, and I don't like that. I wish there was a way you could stay with a friend while he is there, or change the keys, but I am sure it isn't that simple if he is a co-owner of your home.... or if he might do things to your belongings if you're not there. You're not pathetic, girl. You are trying to do things in an adult manner... unlike him.
Jul 22 - 2PM
MovinOnUp
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WellRead

Oh man oh man, can I identify. I'm still stuck in the same house with mine right now. But my daughter was away for months and I filled to to housesit and take care of her pets. I couldn't belive how the anxiety fled my body when I didn't see his face everyday. And I couldn't believe how at peace I felt. I've been wishing someone would steal my husband for years! Here's to hoping you and I, and everyone else who is having difficulty detaching gets to experience 24/7 peace in the near future. Good Luck with that conversation, WellRead!
Jul 22 - 2PM (Reply to #2)
WellRed
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LOL

LOL - I want someone to steal mine too! I also forgot to mention that his profile also says he is 35,,,,,,,wait till they get a load of the 50 year old man!!! Yes he is handsome and does look younger than 50, but 35?? Give me a break!! But what would I expect?? When I met him a lot was based on lies - so why should he be any different now??
Jul 22 - 3PM (Reply to #3)
MovinOnUp
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Yeah, I guess leopards never

Yeah, I guess leopards never change their spots, though mine would probably insist he was a zebra anyway. I've heard of shaving a few years off -- but fifteen! I hope he's putting in a lot of hours at the gym to pull that one off. Now if he'd advertised he was five or six years old emotionally -- he wouldn't have been fudging the truth. Good Luck!
Jul 22 - 3PM (Reply to #4)
rainbow1
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hahah

"Yeah, I guess leopards never change their spots, though mine would probably insist he was a zebra anyway." I love that!

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