coparenting and making the kids spin...do they do this?

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#1 Jun 12 - 11AM
mes6268
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coparenting and making the kids spin...do they do this?

I've been working really hard and my LC is going great! Dismissing calls, only answering the emails that pertain to the kids. Nothing else crazy he puts in there. Today, we have to meet to go over our finances to proceed to the divorce stage. I'm in a good place today. Yesterday not so good.

Are they capable of making your children spin...do they triangulate them?

Been receiving texts for the last 5 days about when he can call the kids? He wants to talk to them every day (mind you they are 7,4, and 2). They have no idea how to talk on the phone.

SUNDAY:
Got a text when can i call. 2 hrs later, when can I call. I dimissed them all and asked the 7yr old to pls call before we went swimming. He said not now. I said yes let's just do it now.

MONDAY:
He sends 7 imessages through 7YO Ipod touch. He calls me 4 times yesterday and 4 emails. I agree to meet to discuss the financials in a public place through 1 communication. I get home from work tell 7YO daddy sent you some messages on your touch. He says not now.

Texts at 6pm, when can I call. I ask 7YO if they want to talk to daddy, he says not now.

Texts again at 615, can I call. I make 7YO and all kids come outside (he had a friend over) and talk to daddy. Daddy tells 7YO he sent him messages on touch. 7YO says ok I will look at them later.

Calls the house a 830. Wants to talk to 7yo. 7YO and i are playing a video game. He politely tells his daddy we are playing and he will see him tomorrow. Daddy reminds him about the texts. 7YO "promises" to respond later after we play our game.

930: 7YO goes to bed and does not reply to texts nor did I remind him.

945: daddy texts, is 7YO sleeping.

I'm exhausted just remembering all this. Is this f**up or what?

I feel like all I am doing is asking 7YO if he wants to talk to daddy, does he want to text daddy, tonight is daddy's night...etc. I feel like this is all fresh on 7YO brain. Am I screwing up this little guys head by acknowledging daddy's messages calls?

I feel like 7YO has been sad lately. Doesn't want to communicate about it regularly, but is telling strangers we are getting divorced. He had a hard weekend and was missing his father, as he told me.

I'm confused and any insight on this would be helpful. This is completely exhausting.

Jun 12 - 8PM
Pearl430
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sounds familiar

Jun 13 - 9PM (Reply to #10)
abreva
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this is all great advice.

Jun 12 - 8PM
abreva
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outrageous display of attempt to control you.

Jun 12 - 3PM
TruthbeginsToday
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I forgot....YES they triangulate children

Jun 12 - 3PM
TruthbeginsToday
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I forgot....YES they triangulate children

Jun 12 - 3PM
TruthbeginsToday
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Kids first....always!

Jun 12 - 12PM
DawnWins
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My FOTY exNH wants his kids

Jun 12 - 12PM (Reply to #3)
mes6268
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thank you ladies

Jun 12 - 1PM (Reply to #4)
DawnWins
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Could he be missing his

Jun 12 - 12PM
Deidre99
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I like your 7 yo's